Pease help! My son is now 30 and sits on the lounge all day!?

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My son was a bad Cannabis user & it sent it mad. He got into trouble with the police, lost his license & went to jail due to the cannabis screwing up his mind . He is paying for a car he can't drive & seems to have lost all interest in life. He has a court appearance pending and has been ordered to live at home with us but all he does is sits on the lounge watching TV or plays on the computer, I have to tell him to do things, I'm his Arthritic mother not his slave so I make him take turns in the chores with me but I have to say it's your turn for the dishes (dishwasher job) or "can you vacuum the floor". My husband is getting sick of coming home from work & seeing him sitting there doing nothing and it's putting allot of pressure on our marriage. We live in the country but both of his younger brothers live in town & one has offered to have him live at his place so he can get out of home & have a chance of finding work but he refuses to go. We're at our wits end. What to do?
Thanks Mel
No I know for a fact he's NOT using the pot now but both of these answers did give me a much needed Laugh! LMAO


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It might be he is still somking the pot.But a lot of responsible pot users in this world.There is more to it than the pot. Kick him out if he won't work.No mouches allowed in my home.You would be doing him a favor.

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get your hubby to give him a good clip around the ears.

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If he is smoking pot that right there is the problem. The more he smokes pot the less ambition he has in life. He needs tough love. He should get help with his pot problem. Somebody needs to give him a deadline to find a job and help out with bills if he is going to continue to live with you or with someone else and if he doesn't meet that deadline then he is out. He needs tough love. The more you allow him to sit on his azz the more he will take advantage of it.

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unplug the electronics and hand him a book about getting his shit together. He is a grown man a few ultimatums never hurt anyone, you are only enabling him.

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You should have been more interested in this when he was 15, maybe then he wouldn't be a burned out pot head at 30.

Kick his butt out and make him stand on his own 2 feet.

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HI Mel,
Well I would advice you to break the dinner plate over little Johnnies head and march his butt down to a Army recruiter, but with him having a court case pending it's just not possible.

A court order to live at your place ? I would go back to court and revoke whatever type of custodial agreement you have to take care of this bum. Then he will be back in jail and if that doesn't motivate him to get his act together, nothing will.

Give little Johnnie a choice to go live with his brother and try to get it together or go back to jail. If he reuses, revoke your custodial agreement and the police will forcibly remove this leach.

I have a sister like that, but her drug of choice is crack. She caused my parents nothing but grief for 23 years while I was serving in the Navy. I believe she was the main cause for my dad dying of a heart attack at age 71, leaving my mother a wido. My looser sister was in jail again and I could not have trusted her to help mom out evan if she wasn't.

My wife and I took care of mom at home for a year and she moved to the Philippines with us to get away from my sister and her ways. Moms gone now, but she had a good couple years with us in the Philippines instead of a nursing home.

Don't let this looser son destroy your time and life with your husband. You've already done all you could to raise him properly and the rest is up to him. Sounds like 2 of 3 are doing allright. Do whatever it takes to get this bum off your couch.

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