XXeviloliveXX
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...to consider? I agree, that in a perfect world, I would like to say that a woman should stay home and rear her children properly...but a situation that has happened with a friend of mine really makes me think that a wife/mother establishing a good carreer first, even if it means putting her child in daycare, or hiring a nanny, may be the best thing.
My friend got married years ago, and they got pregnant pretty soon after. When the baby came, she quit college and stayed home to raise the baby, then had another baby too, while her husband worked very hard to support the family, as he believed a mother's first duty is to stay home and rear the kids. Well, last year, her husband passed away unexpectedly of a brain aneurysmm. They had no life insurance, and because she has no degree, nor an established career, she had to go get work to support herself and her sons, but she can only get very low paying, menial jobs. She lost their house, her car was repossessed, and now she's living in a tiny Section 8 (Welfare housing in the US) place in a bad neighborhood and is on food stamps.
This type of situation could happen to a woman also who's husband doesn't die, but divorces her...or if the husband gets sick and cannot work, or gets addicted to drugs or something.
It makes me think that maybe a wife/mother making sure to get a degree, and to have a good career *IS* putting her kids first, so that if something like these situations happen, and she is forced to provide for herself and her kids, she is able to do that.
What do you think?
My friend got married years ago, and they got pregnant pretty soon after. When the baby came, she quit college and stayed home to raise the baby, then had another baby too, while her husband worked very hard to support the family, as he believed a mother's first duty is to stay home and rear the kids. Well, last year, her husband passed away unexpectedly of a brain aneurysmm. They had no life insurance, and because she has no degree, nor an established career, she had to go get work to support herself and her sons, but she can only get very low paying, menial jobs. She lost their house, her car was repossessed, and now she's living in a tiny Section 8 (Welfare housing in the US) place in a bad neighborhood and is on food stamps.
This type of situation could happen to a woman also who's husband doesn't die, but divorces her...or if the husband gets sick and cannot work, or gets addicted to drugs or something.
It makes me think that maybe a wife/mother making sure to get a degree, and to have a good career *IS* putting her kids first, so that if something like these situations happen, and she is forced to provide for herself and her kids, she is able to do that.
What do you think?