Parents arguing AGAIN(drunk)?

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Amanada

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3 days ago my dad got drunk and my mom and him had a huge argument. When I went upstairs they were cussing at each other and then it got kinda physical. After that my dad told my mom to move out (he just said it cause he was drunk) then in the morning they didn't talk AT ALL. Today my mom still won't talk to him. My mom, sister & I went grocery shopping while my dad went to fix the car and by the time we came home my dad was already a bit drunk, but my mom didn't say anything. Now, just a few minutes ago my dad walks int my room and he's like how do I look and he had a bunch of cologne on (he was still drunk) and he's like I'm going out, but in a really weird happy kind of way! It was already scaring me the way he said it! He asked me if I wanted anything while he went out and I said no I'm fine! While he was on his way out, my mom was in the kitchen and she's like where are you going and he responded I'm going to go out and then I'm going to get some beer and my mom said something (I don't know what) and he's like your already pissing me off! & Went out!

I'm reaaally scared cause I THINK there might be some argument about this later! My mom has already talked to him about this but he never listens to her & I know he won't listen to us!
 
I see a storm brewing. Tell your mom out flat that she is in a bad relationship. Your father is self destructive and ready to harm those that he is suppose to love. Tell your mom that you don't want to see that fight. Ask her to take you, your siblings and her to her parents house or somewhere safe to spend the night. Or have a family member call him and tell him not to return home until he is sober and ready to get help. It might also be a good idea to have a family member come spend the night so when he does get home; your mom is not the only adult to handle him. I bet if your dad realizes that other people are getting involved; it might help him get his act together.
 
i hope he is not driving him self to the store.any way try not to let it get to you.drunks act that way..i sure so sometimes and so does my bf..but hang overs got to be to much for me so i had to slow down a lot on the drinking maybe they will get that way for him as well
 
Your dad's relationship with your mom is going through a rough patch (in fact, it may be collapsing altogether). This may be happening because of the drinking, or the drinking may be in response to the deterioration of his marriage...only he can answer that with any degree of certainty. This is a painful existence for him, and a painful one for everyone else around him. The important thing to know is this: You cannot fix this; its not your place to do this nor is it your responsibility. But to some extent you can improve things a bit by letting him know you have genuine concern for both of your parents. And, you may be surprised to know that it may be easier for him to talk to you than to your mother, particularly now. This doesn't mean you should feel compelled to take sides between your parents' positions, just that you should make your support known to both of them, then stay out of the details of their struggles as much as possible. I know this is a sensitive, difficult, and scary situation, but try to trust your parents' abilities to find their own way through this (however that transpires). They were human beings long before they were parents, which means, being parents does not exempt them from human problems. Trust them to work their issues out. Good luck to you all.
 
Your dad's relationship with your mom is going through a rough patch (in fact, it may be collapsing altogether). This may be happening because of the drinking, or the drinking may be in response to the deterioration of his marriage...only he can answer that with any degree of certainty. This is a painful existence for him, and a painful one for everyone else around him. The important thing to know is this: You cannot fix this; its not your place to do this nor is it your responsibility. But to some extent you can improve things a bit by letting him know you have genuine concern for both of your parents. And, you may be surprised to know that it may be easier for him to talk to you than to your mother, particularly now. This doesn't mean you should feel compelled to take sides between your parents' positions, just that you should make your support known to both of them, then stay out of the details of their struggles as much as possible. I know this is a sensitive, difficult, and scary situation, but try to trust your parents' abilities to find their own way through this (however that transpires). They were human beings long before they were parents, which means, being parents does not exempt them from human problems. Trust them to work their issues out. Good luck to you all.
 
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