painful sex nomatter what?

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i was a virgin before my current boyffriend, and in january we had sex for the first time (missionary) and it hurt SOOO badly, i was almost in tears and i bled for the next day..
we tried again last night and it was still VERY painful, but did not bleed. (missionary again)
we tried at first me on top, but couldnt figure it out, and it was a bit painful to investigate..
im wondering what we're doing wrong..
and how its supposed to work when im on top..
 
this happened with my ex boyfriend and we were together two years! and then with my new boyfriend it didnt hurt at all. you need to remember to relax, if you feel self conscious or scared then all your muscles will tense up and it will really hurt. you need to completely trust him, and take it slowly, have lots of foreplay before, and make sure you are wet and in the mood otherwise it wont work, try not to think too much, just let it happen naturally - and if it hurts stop, have more foreplay then try again. never carry on if it hurts even if you feel guilty your not satisfying him - because if he carries on and then tears you, you wont be able to satisfy him for a long while! key word - Relax!!

when you are on top, do what turns you on - dont worry about him. i know this sounds selfish but if he sees his girlfriend enjoying herself on top of him then he will be turned on.
 
Hmm, my girlfriend told me her first time was painful, however after that it was fine. I guess it's different for all girls, just give it time...

If you get to concerned, go visit a doctor :)
 
It could be that you are just a first timer and it can be painful. Are you lubricating at all? It could also be a medical problem. It it continues go see your doctor fast. Do not put that off. You could have fibroids. They are usually not serious and can be removed.
 
It could be that you are just a first timer and it can be painful. Are you lubricating at all? It could also be a medical problem. It it continues go see your doctor fast. Do not put that off. You could have fibroids. They are usually not serious and can be removed.
 
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