Pain for Life

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I have a question. Actually I have two questions this morning. My doc once told me that I was going to have pain the rest of my life, yeah, ok, and that I could control it with pain medication. He also inlightened me of the seriousness of my delima by informing me that the nuraber one cause of suicide is chronic pain. I didn't know that at the time. From the kind of music I listen to, I thought the nuraber one cause of suicide would have been broken hearts.
Anyway....
First question, why would a doctor, trained, educated and experienced in his work make such a broad statement with such far reaching effects?
Second question, why would I believe him. I am trained, educated and experience in my life. I know my mind, spirit and body better than anyone.
I will try at this point not to go overboard and I will try to stay in the relm of my recovery.
This is a foolish statement and only fools like myself would ever fall for it!
Pain happens for a reason. Yes, as addicts, we are quite aware there are many different types of pain. Whether physical, spiritual or emotional, it is the one characteristic we as addicts all have in common. SOME kind of pain.
Hold on a minute, subtrain, we all as human beings have pain. We as addicts, have in common with each other, the decision to deal with our pain through addiction. We choose the addiction. Whether we are slowly suckered in by a doctors knowledgeable and caring concern or whether we just don't ever want to leave the party, it is a choice we make and pain is always in the equation.
So, am I in pain? Yes. I've been in pain for, well, about as long as I can remeraber. Have I always chosen to deal with my pain through addiction. No. But, I am an addict. And it has taken me most of my life and a whole bunch of un-necessary pain to realize that!!
Will I ever be able to deal with pain without addiction? I'm doing it now, I don't know about the future. I do know I will never fall for that piece of BS info again. Some doc telling me I'll be in inoperable pain for the rest of my life!
You don't have to believe in miracles until you open your eyes and see, your ears and hear, your touch to feel, your nose to smell or your mouth to taste. You don't have to believe you are going to be in pain for the rest of your life because you hurt now or some doc tells you you will always hurt.
YOU, yourself are a miricle. You are unique within your own experience. You have the choice and the unlimited ability to make that experience what you wish. YOU HAVE BEEN BLESSED!
I once met a man who had no arms. Seriously. He had no arms. Do you no what he did for a living? He was a watchmaker. A watchmaker! Think about it. He made watches with his feet!
He was happy.
Capable.
And never really thought how difficult his everyday activities were.
I thought he was extreemly talented, he thought he was just making a living and supporting his family. Oh, yeah, he lived in a third world country. No comforts like the U.S..
I wish I had asked him, "are you in pain?".
Blessings and thanks for your indulgence.
 
Wonderful post!!! Definitely one I will hold on to (it's on my fridge :)) Thank you subtrain.

milksnake - absolutely, positvely THE best explanation I've ever heard. To you as well, thank you.

emsmom
 
why would a doctor, trained, educated and experienced in his work make such a broad statement with such far reaching effects?

maybe because he wants you on the meRAB...you see, most doctors are "in close touch" with the makers of such meRAB.

doctors--companies which manufacture prescription drugs--health insurance companies--- this is a cut-throat business, it all comes down to money...that's the bottom line. Do some research....alot of criminal activity goes un-noticed,,,,on purpose.

and why would you believe them??? i have no idea on that one my friend
 
Milksnake my friend, you may be on to something? And, why would we believe them? Maybe because we want too? What do you think?
 
I too was told I will probably be in pain for the rest of my life. Do I believe the doctor was saying this because he wanted me on the meRAB? No. Do I believe some docs do that? Yes. You cannot out all docs in the same box just like you cannot put all people in the same box.

I've noticed on a few of the posts, that the issue of dependence and addiction are up for debate. Most of the literature says there is a difference, but that too can be debatable. Why is it not possible for there to be a difference between the two? There is a huge difference in that when the drug is taken from an addict, they will usually panic and wonder how will I live without this drug? From the pain patient who is dependent, they will wonder how will I live with this pain? And that is a huge difference.

Can a pain patient be addicted? Yes. Can an addict responsibly take pain meRAB. Yes, they are many who do it every day. That's what's wonderful about people, we are all defferent. Pain sufferer's can choose to use other ways to manage their pain, that is their right. But is also the right of the person who cannot get pain relief to choose to take meRAB. This is no different than the diabetic who manages their diabetes through diet and exercise and the ones who either don't or cannot and use meRAB.

No one has the right to judge other's decisions until they have walked in their shoes. No one has the right to say that the only pain bad enough to warrant relief is cancer pain. We all have a right to make decisions that will better our quality of life.

Melissa
 
Yet another post that makes complete sense to me! Thank you subtrain! Milksnake made a good point as well!

And yes, as an addict why do we believe them???? Maybe because we want to.. yes, so that we can keep using! Speaking for myself.... I know that as long as I was being told by dr's that I needed the meRAB I felt better about my use... even though I KNEW it was an issue.
 
This is an inspired thread. All remarkable, intelligent, people with eyes wide open. Thanks to you all.
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Hey Melissa,

I hope none of us offended you. I certainly know there was NO intent in doing so... Your post sounded like you were defending something and I just wanted to be the first to state that no one neeRAB to feel like they have to defend themself here.. I could not possibly make a judgement on anyone considering all the choices I have made in life.

Trying to keep the peace here as this site is so very important to my heart!!!!

Respectfully,
~Secrets
 
Hey Secrets, first off let me say I have followed your posts and you truly are an inspiration. You have overcome some surmountable things and always with a positive attitude!:)

I didn't mean to sound defensive, it was just a few posts that seemed to be a little sarcastic about the difference between dependence and addicted. As I have been thinking about things this afternoon, it strikes me how we are all more alike than different. We may be working towarRAB and fighting for different things(sobriety, pain relief) yet the spirit of that fight is for quality of life and thus ultimately the same thing. In addition, our battles are interlinked as with one's success comes the other.

Melissa
 
Thanks Secrets, for both it's a daily struggle and you should be proud of how you have supported everyone on here both with honesty and vulnerabilty. I appreciate your effort to keep things on a positive note!

Melissa
 
Very Nicely put!

I am so thankful you were not upset! Because I really didn't want ANYONE on here to be offended!!!!

You are so right! We are all fighting for quality of life! You could not have stated that better!

Thank you so much for what you have said about me! It means a lot.. This struggle is something I would not wish on my worst enemy and i mean that! There is no way I could explain the emotional pain associated with addiction just like I am sure there is no way you could fully explain to me what living with chronic pain is like....

Thank you for your kindness and for your worRAB! I am glad there are no hard feelings!

Good luck to you!!!!!
 
You certainly don't need to thank me for keeping the peace..... I just really want everyone to feel comfortable here no matter what their situation is... This board has been a life line for me and I really don't know what I would do with out it.

I certainly hope that you feel comfortable to post all you want over here. The more the merrier in my opinion!!! I love how everyone can always bring a different perspective to the table on every issue! That is what makes this board so wonderful!

Many blessings to you!
 
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