I posted earlier, but ppl were getting the wrong idea. Give me what YOU would do or what YOUR decision would be regarding the following situation! (I've been through, I've dealt and resolved it, I just am curious as to what others would do or what opinions they have on the matter.)
And yes, this is a "shorter" version. Your spouse (husband or wife) ends up getting back in touch with an old friend of the opposite sex. They have a past of growing up and being close friends as well as planning to date, but it not working out for some reason in the past. In time you end up taking a couple family vacations with that "old friend" and their spouse as well. You seem to not be able to get to know the "old friend" well, but notice they spend a good amount of time having personal -in person- conversations one and one with your spouse and send messages and such as well on the internet. They end up giving somewhat long meaningful hugs to your spouse and barely hug you. One day you find out about a personal message that was sent by your spouse to their "friend" and see it is pretty personal and has the words. "I'm afraid to see you as my heart would hurt" and it goes on being very personal.
In the end would you want contact with your spouse and their friend cut off? Would you trust the "friend" be it was their intention or not to get close to your spouse? Or would you be fine with it?
In my personal experience, I had contact cut-off. We were in a ruff patch during the time my husband got more close to his "friend", hence not a good thing. We have resolved the issue as husband and wife and even noticed a great difference with the "friend" and that "friendship" out of the picture.
And yes, this is a "shorter" version. Your spouse (husband or wife) ends up getting back in touch with an old friend of the opposite sex. They have a past of growing up and being close friends as well as planning to date, but it not working out for some reason in the past. In time you end up taking a couple family vacations with that "old friend" and their spouse as well. You seem to not be able to get to know the "old friend" well, but notice they spend a good amount of time having personal -in person- conversations one and one with your spouse and send messages and such as well on the internet. They end up giving somewhat long meaningful hugs to your spouse and barely hug you. One day you find out about a personal message that was sent by your spouse to their "friend" and see it is pretty personal and has the words. "I'm afraid to see you as my heart would hurt" and it goes on being very personal.
In the end would you want contact with your spouse and their friend cut off? Would you trust the "friend" be it was their intention or not to get close to your spouse? Or would you be fine with it?
In my personal experience, I had contact cut-off. We were in a ruff patch during the time my husband got more close to his "friend", hence not a good thing. We have resolved the issue as husband and wife and even noticed a great difference with the "friend" and that "friendship" out of the picture.