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BayBomber
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My husbands younger sister (she's 23) just went through a break up with her live-in boyfriend of 2 years. His sister is a drama queen, so when she did talk about breaking up with him beforehand it didn't really mean much to the rest of the family.
My husband and I hadn't heard from either of them in over a month...which was odd considering we live next door to my in-laws and she's invite herself over for supper every Sunday (literally, she'd call and ask 'what are you guys having?')
This morning I was browsing facebook and I noticed that her boyfriend seemed to have removed myself and our entire family from his friend's list.
I took this as him thinking that it would be impossible to be friends with the rest of us at this point, and I emailed him and told him that wasn't the case. As a sign of good will, I invited him over to our place to hang out sometime.
I honestly had no idea just how bad of a breakup they had gone through. My sister-in-law made it a point not to tell anyone anything. But after her ex re-added me on facebook, she called me in a fury and told me I wasn't "allowed" to talk to him anymore. She had the cops go to his house last night and tell him he wasn't to have any contact with her family whatsoever until "after they're through in court". She found out I had emailed him because she knows his password and admitted to still checking his email and facebook.
I did not know any of this was going on. I cant for the life of me figure out what might have happened between them that got the cops involved. I can understand getting lawyers and going to court because they lived together for a few years, own things together, have some pets, credit cards, etc that need straightening out.
But WHAT could have happened that he isn't allowed to have contact with any of us? From my understanding, she wanted to end it with him, while they were still together she cheated on him. No one knows this but me. Could she be trying to hide something that SHE did? Or is it more likely that her ex did something to provoke this? Keep in mind, until this day no one had any clue that anything was going on.
Am I at liberty to do what she says and not try to contact him? Or should I chalk this up to her attempting to dictate who we can and can't be friends with?
What's everyone's thoughts on this? Should I try to not get involved and do as she says and help make the poor guy's life miserable, or do I listen to my conscience and and extend a hand of friendship to him? (My husband has the same feelings as I do).
Keep in mind that dramatics follows this girl EVERYWHERE she goes. Since I've known her since she was 13 she's been attention-whorish like this.
A- I'm not interfering with HER life. She's interfering with MINE. I have a right to contact whoever I want. She has no right to tell me who I can and can't talk to.
And I don't hate her. Stop putting words in my mouth. Obviously you have some issues of your own that need sorting out.
My husband and I hadn't heard from either of them in over a month...which was odd considering we live next door to my in-laws and she's invite herself over for supper every Sunday (literally, she'd call and ask 'what are you guys having?')
This morning I was browsing facebook and I noticed that her boyfriend seemed to have removed myself and our entire family from his friend's list.
I took this as him thinking that it would be impossible to be friends with the rest of us at this point, and I emailed him and told him that wasn't the case. As a sign of good will, I invited him over to our place to hang out sometime.
I honestly had no idea just how bad of a breakup they had gone through. My sister-in-law made it a point not to tell anyone anything. But after her ex re-added me on facebook, she called me in a fury and told me I wasn't "allowed" to talk to him anymore. She had the cops go to his house last night and tell him he wasn't to have any contact with her family whatsoever until "after they're through in court". She found out I had emailed him because she knows his password and admitted to still checking his email and facebook.
I did not know any of this was going on. I cant for the life of me figure out what might have happened between them that got the cops involved. I can understand getting lawyers and going to court because they lived together for a few years, own things together, have some pets, credit cards, etc that need straightening out.
But WHAT could have happened that he isn't allowed to have contact with any of us? From my understanding, she wanted to end it with him, while they were still together she cheated on him. No one knows this but me. Could she be trying to hide something that SHE did? Or is it more likely that her ex did something to provoke this? Keep in mind, until this day no one had any clue that anything was going on.
Am I at liberty to do what she says and not try to contact him? Or should I chalk this up to her attempting to dictate who we can and can't be friends with?
What's everyone's thoughts on this? Should I try to not get involved and do as she says and help make the poor guy's life miserable, or do I listen to my conscience and and extend a hand of friendship to him? (My husband has the same feelings as I do).
Keep in mind that dramatics follows this girl EVERYWHERE she goes. Since I've known her since she was 13 she's been attention-whorish like this.
A- I'm not interfering with HER life. She's interfering with MINE. I have a right to contact whoever I want. She has no right to tell me who I can and can't talk to.
And I don't hate her. Stop putting words in my mouth. Obviously you have some issues of your own that need sorting out.