Last year I met an Aquarius Muslim who approached my friend and I rambling about how much he wanted a good girl. He blabbered on about his longest relationship only being 5 months and all girls in the clubs were sluts. Where were the good ones? He gave me a fake name and a fake address but eventually confessed later in the conversation his real information. He asked for my number and I gave it to him thinking I would never talk to this freak show again.
Sure enough, two days later I wake up to a voice mail from the fake name "appreciating a call back." Umm, no? So I ignored it, and ignored him again when he called like a normal person on a Sunday afternoon. Fast forward a couple weeks later and I get a text message out of nowhere just saying hey, to add him on facebook, and when would we hang out? I figured if he was this persistent, maybe it wouldn't hurt to give him a chance. So I text with him throughout the week but he was just SO WEIRD. Calling in the middle of the night, texting but never responding when I answered back. We set up a date, he never 100% committed to it, in fact I believe his exact words were "I'm 80% there", and on the day of I heard nothing from him. I ended up going out with my friends and sent a drunken text telling him he missed a good time. The next day I get a "heyyyyy" like nothing ever happened. I called him out on him standing me up and he replied "Sorry babe" Then " how about we get a bottle and chill at your crib?" I was pretty blind-sided by that...didn't he say he wanted a good girl? I brushed that comment off with something smart ass and said I wasn't into it. Throughout the week he kept trying with this bottle thing and I just kept saying there were standards. Finally, we make another date and on the day of that he changes the plans 3 different times and then says maybe he can't make it. I freaked out and said forget about it. A few hours later he texts, "so you want to go the party?" What????? No! I later calmed down and said I was disappointed bc I was looking forward to hanging out with him and thought that he was too and then shut my phone off. I woke up to a barrage of texts asking if I was coming to the party I invited him to, he cancelled on, and then went to!
Typing this all out, I see how typical Aquarius behavior this is so I'll get to the point. After this party incident I texted him. It had been almost two years since I had been with someone and I figured he'd be good for a quick good time if nothing else. He sure came through then! And ever since we've been hooking up but I've really shown him my life and he likes it. I'm guessing he likes it because it's completely opposite of his. I'm free-spirited living on my own and doing whatever it is I want in New York City where he's living a double life in a strict-ish Muslim family. I ended up working, and becoming close,with his brother and best friend (he says they both have nothing but good things to say about me) and he claims his parents would love me but he's never introduced us (although he sometimes says he's going to?)
He forever tells me we will never be together but when I tell him I want to be left alone...he goes all out to insist on being friends? About 8 months into things he got distant. Not following through on plans and not even letting me know if he was coming or not. Finally I told him I would stop calling him and for him to stop calling me. One week with no contact and he calls me at 2am asking if I have Microsoft Word. Ever since then he has been telling me I'm beautiful (where before he told me he wasn't physically attracted to me) that he would love to kiss me (where before he told me I wasn't kissing quality) and he would marry me in a minute...if I were Muslim. I'm not and never will be and keep asking for space to get over the relationship/non-relationship that we had. Over and over again he calls and calls to make things better..what do I make of this? I wonder if it's really the Muslim thing or if he just can't consider me "wifey" material because I slept with him too soon? Should I just walk away from this or stay his friend? I feel like when I need him there as a friend, he's missing.
We hang out way more than we have sex. In fact, I wish we were having more of it!
Sure enough, two days later I wake up to a voice mail from the fake name "appreciating a call back." Umm, no? So I ignored it, and ignored him again when he called like a normal person on a Sunday afternoon. Fast forward a couple weeks later and I get a text message out of nowhere just saying hey, to add him on facebook, and when would we hang out? I figured if he was this persistent, maybe it wouldn't hurt to give him a chance. So I text with him throughout the week but he was just SO WEIRD. Calling in the middle of the night, texting but never responding when I answered back. We set up a date, he never 100% committed to it, in fact I believe his exact words were "I'm 80% there", and on the day of I heard nothing from him. I ended up going out with my friends and sent a drunken text telling him he missed a good time. The next day I get a "heyyyyy" like nothing ever happened. I called him out on him standing me up and he replied "Sorry babe" Then " how about we get a bottle and chill at your crib?" I was pretty blind-sided by that...didn't he say he wanted a good girl? I brushed that comment off with something smart ass and said I wasn't into it. Throughout the week he kept trying with this bottle thing and I just kept saying there were standards. Finally, we make another date and on the day of that he changes the plans 3 different times and then says maybe he can't make it. I freaked out and said forget about it. A few hours later he texts, "so you want to go the party?" What????? No! I later calmed down and said I was disappointed bc I was looking forward to hanging out with him and thought that he was too and then shut my phone off. I woke up to a barrage of texts asking if I was coming to the party I invited him to, he cancelled on, and then went to!
Typing this all out, I see how typical Aquarius behavior this is so I'll get to the point. After this party incident I texted him. It had been almost two years since I had been with someone and I figured he'd be good for a quick good time if nothing else. He sure came through then! And ever since we've been hooking up but I've really shown him my life and he likes it. I'm guessing he likes it because it's completely opposite of his. I'm free-spirited living on my own and doing whatever it is I want in New York City where he's living a double life in a strict-ish Muslim family. I ended up working, and becoming close,with his brother and best friend (he says they both have nothing but good things to say about me) and he claims his parents would love me but he's never introduced us (although he sometimes says he's going to?)
He forever tells me we will never be together but when I tell him I want to be left alone...he goes all out to insist on being friends? About 8 months into things he got distant. Not following through on plans and not even letting me know if he was coming or not. Finally I told him I would stop calling him and for him to stop calling me. One week with no contact and he calls me at 2am asking if I have Microsoft Word. Ever since then he has been telling me I'm beautiful (where before he told me he wasn't physically attracted to me) that he would love to kiss me (where before he told me I wasn't kissing quality) and he would marry me in a minute...if I were Muslim. I'm not and never will be and keep asking for space to get over the relationship/non-relationship that we had. Over and over again he calls and calls to make things better..what do I make of this? I wonder if it's really the Muslim thing or if he just can't consider me "wifey" material because I slept with him too soon? Should I just walk away from this or stay his friend? I feel like when I need him there as a friend, he's missing.
We hang out way more than we have sex. In fact, I wish we were having more of it!