Okay this concerns virginity...?

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Alright... me and my girlfriend are both 17 years old and we have agreed we want to have sex (yeah i know, formal, huh?) She is a virgin, i am not. But i've never taken someones virginity and i don't want to hurt her. What can i do to make sure she feels the LEAST amount of pain possible?Thanks guys so: Go slow.Use Lube.Get New sheets.Listen to her.Don't force her.Gotcha.
 
First off, I want to commend you on your level of care and sensitivity towards this issue. I think you are already doing the right thing by first talking about it instead of just pushing her to do it at the heat of the moment. Second, if she agrees that she is ready, and since you have more experience, just talk to her about what to expect and tell her to not be afraid to say stop or slow down when it hurts. Every girl is different, so it's not like you can gauge a certain way to have sex without pain. And since it will be her first time, she will probably feel some pain. Communication is the key, and make sure you listen to her and pay attention to her body language. If she tenses up, just ask her if she's ok.
 
Lots of foreplay and lube. Take things slowly and gently - remember it's about her this time so listen to how she feels and if she wants to stop etc. Missionary is good, with you slowly controlling entry or put her on top and let her control the entry if she feels confident enough.Don't pressure her and if she gets partway along and decides she's changed her mind support her decision.It's nice you're worried about her feelings.
 
Overdose of foreplay.Overdose of oral sex.Lubricant if needed.Gentle defloration in the end.Good luck
 
if she says stop due to the pain, stop, otherwise it feels forced and gross and almost like rape. she'll hate u if u dont do it right and might feel dirty and used.the least amount of pain....it hurts either way....no running awayfrom that pain whatsoever.
 
Things I wish Had Happened When I Lost My Virginity:*Lots of foreplay to get me really wet down there*My partner being slow and gentle*fingering or oral play to cause orgasm beforehand (It helps with the getting wet part, which reduces discomfort, and also guarantees at least one orgasm to remember the night by!)*Stopping when I said stop and making sure everything was all right*Understanding when I said "That hurts" and a willingness to slow down or stop*Cuddling afterJust things to think about and keep in mind when you take her virginity. It is about her so make it special and do things her way, because you don't want to ruin her idea of sex the first time it happens!Also if you start feeling like something is wrong, STOP because couples tend to be tuned in to each other on a deep level and if something seems wrong it probably IS!
 
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