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J C
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staying around? I am 42, single with 4 kids and an overall good mom and person. I have had this friend for many months and we decided that we would be "friends with benefits" I thought I could do this, and I can, but my feelings for him have gotten a lot deeper. I know he cares a lot about me, but he is recently out of a marriage and dealing with a lot of ex-crap. He said he cannot and is not ready to make a relationship of commitment with anyone. Well, we really do have a relationship as we are together all the times my kids are at their dad's and we talk every day. Here's the deal....
He told me about 10 days ago that his ex (from a long time ago) is coming down (from Oregon to NV) with their 14 yo daughter and spending a week. Apparently they are good friends and "she has been there for him over the years".. Well I asked if they were going to have sex. He said "probably" and it has just crushed me. He said he could have lied, but he has always been completely honest with me and did not want to lie about this. I don't know why I am willing to accept this and go on with what we have after she leaves.... I just care about him so much and we really enjoy each other's company.... it makes me so mad at myself that I would want to be with someone after them telling me this. I think I should be done with him and move on with my life, but I just can't. I don't know how next week will be for me...... I'm scared and upset and my mind is going crazy..... I guess what I would like to hear from people who have been in similar experiences (either the person having the sex, or the person accepting their choice) and tell me how or why they do it, why they choose to stay - and how can a man who so obviously cares for me wants to just have sex with this woman and not give it another thought..
thanks
He told me about 10 days ago that his ex (from a long time ago) is coming down (from Oregon to NV) with their 14 yo daughter and spending a week. Apparently they are good friends and "she has been there for him over the years".. Well I asked if they were going to have sex. He said "probably" and it has just crushed me. He said he could have lied, but he has always been completely honest with me and did not want to lie about this. I don't know why I am willing to accept this and go on with what we have after she leaves.... I just care about him so much and we really enjoy each other's company.... it makes me so mad at myself that I would want to be with someone after them telling me this. I think I should be done with him and move on with my life, but I just can't. I don't know how next week will be for me...... I'm scared and upset and my mind is going crazy..... I guess what I would like to hear from people who have been in similar experiences (either the person having the sex, or the person accepting their choice) and tell me how or why they do it, why they choose to stay - and how can a man who so obviously cares for me wants to just have sex with this woman and not give it another thought..
thanks