ok so i need to rant! what does any one think, suggest?

[wubzy_wubzy_wow_wow]

i'm 17 weeks pregnant, had 2 threatened miscarriages, and miscarried a twin with this pregnancy. i tend to over react now, with even the slightest of hints of trouble. my younger sis called me and wanted to know if i was coming to her house sunday, i told her no, we were going to my husbands parents. my older sis then called and told me i was wrong and should be at my younger sis' house with all my siblings, and since i wasn't there for thanksgiving, i should be there for easter. then after bawling me out over that, she jumped on me for going to the hospital the other night (because i was bleeding and cramping(cramps for 4 days), then when i got there i wasn't). she said in a real nasty tone, well if your having sex then you will bleed. i politely informed her we had not had sex before bleeding, and i had followed up with the doctor thursday, and i had an infection that was causing the bleeding and cramping.my family makes me feel so bad sometimes, i can't hardly stand it!
i love my family, and i tend to be used by them, but i'm starting to resent them!!! it seems as if everything i do doesn't suit them! i hate feeling this way. i don't want to get to the point i don't want to be around my own brothers and sisters. i think i'm at my wits end though. i've tried talking to them, but i don't seem to get any where, but upset, crying, agitated, frustrated, and depressed. any suggestions or ideas would be helpful.
we were at my sisters house christmas and new years eve. all my brothers and sisters (3 brothers, 2 sisters); have figured out how to guilt trip me by saying well mom would want us together. my mom died almost 4 years ago, so it usually works, but i'm trying hard to get past that- my mom would want me to live my own life. and how am i supposed to go to my family's house every holiday and not sometimes go to visit with my husbands family? i don't want to alienate my family, but i don't know what else to do with them.

 

[Tsunami]

well since you didn't have one time with them you are in the wrong you shuld be going their for eating this time. as for the baby yes, i can understand why you are so jumpy about this and i tend to agree with you and the fact its nooneof her business you should tell her that. but oh well then that creates more trouble take care.

 

[zoril]

Simply tell your sister that you are not well. You are a married women and your first priority should be to your husband.

 

[Lisa]

You have a reason to put yourself first. Your baby does not need and can't handle a Mom who is this stressed out. I implore you to just avoid them. With your history it is completely understandable that you would go to the ER when you get the hiccups or sneeze and they should understand that. There behavior shows that if you aren't doing for them than you are bad. I have in laws like this.

Cut the ties as much as possible. Right now my husband is fighting cancer and his family has been horrible. Told me I am not his immediate family, his mother is pissed because I am his listed next of kin, calls him after repeated pleas that he be allowed to call them when he is in the hospital for chemo (5 full days every 2 weeks). I update them 2 or more times a day on how he is doing but it isn't how they want it so it isn't being respected.

I have stated that it stops or I will cut all ties. All we are asking for is a little respect and decency and we can't seam to get it.

You need to put a stop to this now before your baby comes into this world and has to deal with the same thing.

Being a blood relative is no excuse for bad behavior!

 

[Wifeyy :]]

Sounds like its time for you to do what I did.

Your MARRIED.
Now your husband and unborn child(ren) come first!
NO MATTER WHAT.
Especially if they are gonna try and guilt trip you while you're pregnant meaning they are causing stress which isn't good on you or baby.

Change you number if you have to.. but it sounds like you need to stay away from them for a while.. let them see what they are missing!

 

[paintedhorse30]

Your sister needs to chill and worry about what she is doing, not what you are doing. She is a b*t*c*

 

[letterstoheather]

Hon, i'm sorry you are having these problems, and it looks like you're allowing your sister, and possibly others, to walk all over you.

Strange as it may seem, no one else knows what you "should" do, or what you prefer to do... So do what pleases YOU...

setting personal boundaries is a good way to deal with people. if you are unsure about boundaries, it's all about dealing with people and self-preservation. i've listed a website if you're interested.

i know things will work out -- just take care of YOU. sending hugs.