microconfused
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I have been sterilized for about 4 years now and I have 2 kids, girls, one by my husband. I got sterilized because they found cervical cancer and I thought it was going to keep coming back. Well now, I really want more kids and so does he. There is a clinic in another state that can fix my tubes and reconstruct them so I can get pregnant on my own again, the good old fashion way. It's 8000$. But my brother n law was talking about some kind of program with adopting and he feels that I have to go through so much to get pregnant that I should just adopt. I am appreciative of him being caring like that but this is the thing. I am torn now. I would like more kids of my own to look like me and be a part of my hubby and me but at the same time, look at all those poor little kids without anyone to give them love. It breaks my heart. I know this might sound selfish but I don't know if I could take a child unless he or she was a baby cause then they only know you as a parent. This is the second question, isn't adoption, very expensive? I mean we were goin to pay 8000$ for the surgery, adoption has to be more than that. What do you guys think? Anyone know about costs for adoption and if its hard to adopt a baby? As many answers as possible please:]
I want a baby but I don't care the race. Race means nothing to mean. We all bleed red. My daughter is mixed and the other one is white.
I want a baby but I don't care the race. Race means nothing to mean. We all bleed red. My daughter is mixed and the other one is white.