Not agreeing with sons parenting for his daughter. He isn't cooking healthy

carol

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and lives in working area? My son is 21 and has a six year old daughter from a teenage relationship. While I was never pleased he had her so young, he did step up to the plate and has took care of her. The child's mother, died in an accident on prom night while my son was looking after her (he agreed to skip prom and take care of her so the mother could go). So since she was lived with us until very recently.

Back in December, my son landed a high paying job at a timber mill and a month ago moved out of her house into an apartment which her. The apartment is pretty plain, two rooms and in a area that looks common. All the neighbors are blue collar workers and thus unlearned and pretty dim. I feel my granddaughter needs to grow in an area like I live in a nice middle class suburb full of the right people and my son needs a good white color job and not something like a timber company killing his bones. Its just not right for my son and granddaughter.

Today, I went over for dinner and my son is doing too much buying food from Wal Mart, which is cheap and not like the finer supermarkets I get food from. He cooks in oils and makes unhealthy meals for them like fried chickens and fries. I told him my opinions and he said theres no such thing as unhealthy food and pointed out my grandmother eats unhealthy and is 96 and is still in good health for her age. He said if I don't like it don't come over, hes not going to feed her food she don't like just because its a little bit healthier, he said happiness and eating good foods is better than chocking down healthy plain stuff. He called me a snob over my dislike of working class area and people and told he felt happy to have independence, happy to work with his hands and says he feels like an honest reformed man and loves manual work because it makes him truly feel like hes earning his pay and says he remaining with them until he retires just like many workers in our area have done. God that makes me shudder him working for a company, doing manual labor until hes old and then retiring with no accomplishments but having worked 40 years for a timber mill!

While I respect hes happy, I don't like this idea. Is there anyone to make him see reason? AT tall?
Fake? What is so fake about this? I am a mother concerned for my son and his daughter. I honestly feel hes got better things in life than working where he does and running bad influences on my granddaughter. There is nothing fake about this. And how would this get a rise out of anyone? There is nothing insulting in there?
What the hell is un unbelieveable about this story? A mother wanting the best for her son? What does the first answer think about a "rise of out people". I put nothing in there that should start trouble.
 
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