I live in NJ, I’m 32 years old and have been separated over 4 years now from my husband who sleeps on the sofa in our living room because we owe more on our home than it is worth and finances keep us living in the same home. However we do not get along at all now and need separate homes. My husband works 60 hours a week & I am a stay at home mom. All my children have been in school full time over 2 years now & my husband is trying to make me get a job so that he can afford to move out. He says I have 40 hours to myself all week when the kids are in school plus all weekend because he has the children then. He says I need to get a job to help out so we can move on and afford a divorce. I want him to pay to send me to college instead and he will say in return mean things like said he legally doesn't have to pay for it and for me to stop being lazy & get a job. Is this true? I was in the Military 4 years then had a secretary job before I became a stay at home mother but I want more schooling to make more money because I’m not working for minimum wage since I haven’t worked in 11 years.
Also, my husband sold his truck & paid our credit card bills off with it & got an old small car to drive instead without a car payment. He says he would like to get rid of my $500 a month minivan payment and have me get into a less expensive vehicle so there is more money for him to be able to pay for our house & an apartment for himself. The Minivan loan is only under his name so can he do this? Can he just take my van away and make me drive a smaller car? He tried to switch cars with me and use the van last week when he had the kids to take them to the zoo instead of in his small car & I called the police on him. He told the police he would take the smaller car to avoid a scene & I got to use my van myself all weekend. Can he just use my Van whenever he wants? Can he sell it for something smaller? Doesn't he have to keep me in the lifestyle I'm used to?
Also, my husband sold his truck & paid our credit card bills off with it & got an old small car to drive instead without a car payment. He says he would like to get rid of my $500 a month minivan payment and have me get into a less expensive vehicle so there is more money for him to be able to pay for our house & an apartment for himself. The Minivan loan is only under his name so can he do this? Can he just take my van away and make me drive a smaller car? He tried to switch cars with me and use the van last week when he had the kids to take them to the zoo instead of in his small car & I called the police on him. He told the police he would take the smaller car to avoid a scene & I got to use my van myself all weekend. Can he just use my Van whenever he wants? Can he sell it for something smaller? Doesn't he have to keep me in the lifestyle I'm used to?