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Ok, life sucks. Lately I have been this sort of magnet for girls. It is pretty new to me because usually I don't even get a second look. I have pretty much been able to pick up any girl I want for some reason or another, which is fucking cool but I don't do it. You see, I switched schools this year and I found this one girl. She seemed absolutely hopeless when I first met her. I was, without a doubt, not attracted to her. She was always telling me things like how she is allergic to all these types of metals, how she is highly allergic to bleach (showed me a scar where she got burned by it), how she was sent to Notra Dame or w/e where she wasn't taught anything and told that she would never amount to anything (a christian school over here in texas), how she did and does all sorts of drugs, she is a goth girl, how she has some disease that is going to kill her when she is 20 or so , and how she always had these girls she was with and guys she was with. I really didn't even think twice about her. I believed everything she said though. I even told my parents and stuff, which ended up in an argument about whether or not it was true. I was in belief and they weren't. So some time passed, I got into college and then all the sudden I saw her one morning and she was drunk or something. She came to me and was hanging on me and stuff and I didn't exactly know what to do so I just sat there and made sure she didn't fall over. For some reason she just started to seem different to me. Later on (time lapse), about 3 months, we started to talk a little in between classes and so forth. I started to like her somehow. All other girls that I have met and stuff have been really attactive but somehow they just became nothing to me. This one girl, Nicole, was and is all I can think about. Now I try to talk to her everytime I see her and she does to me as well. She even gave me her number without me asking and I her as well. The problem is that recently she has just kind of started growing distant from me again and I don't want that to happen. I feel as though I can't do anything to stop it from happening. I want to be with this girl. Someone that I don't even know because I found out what her problem is, she is a compulsive liar. I know that she is but I don't care. Right now, I don't know whether I should call her or not. I want to but at the same time I worried that if I get involved I'll just be setting myself up to get hurt. I love this girl and would do anything for her. but what about her? I know that she already lies to me and does do drugs. 2 things that I just can't live with. fuck I'm so confused.
I think I should just call her and tell her but for some reason the words just never want to come out. I don't know what to do but I do know that if I don't act fast, I'm going to lose her to someone else because it looks as if I don't want to be with her or something. DAMN IT. to top it off, i don't even know if what i have just written is everything that has happen for anyone to give any real helpful suggestions but if you think you have one, please do tell.
 
Oh wow, chick magnet aye? I have never had a girlfriend in my life, and they generally tend to steer clear of me. Yeah, you have it soooo bad.:happysad:
 
This is like...love soppy chick-flick style romance. I bow to you. XD



Anyway...maybe, you just need to get courage to talk to her about what she does. If you get close to her again, I *think* she'll listen. A lot of it has to do with courage, and just, talking more than you think.

I guess you could also distract her from drinking somehow, get her to do something else.
 
Here is my suggestion:

Proclaim yourself a monk. You will actually get more girls, but tell them you have to go a year of abstinence, which includes touching/talking, ect.....


Dump the liar druggie. You love her more because she causes strain in your life, which is a part of a need you have, regardless of what she does. Are you sure you really love her, or do you love the idea of having her, or the idea of who she should be to you?

I'd think pretty hard about a lot of that.

Also,

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for the love of god man, I don't have that kind of attentions span!
 
It isn't as easy as you all think. The problem in general is that I can be with any girl I want right now but for some reason I want to be with this one. I have never had a girlfriend before, but I do know how to treat a woman which makes it that much easier to be able to hook up with women around where I live in Texas because everybody else is just a bunch of dumb rednecks that fuck up girls lives.
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It isn't that I want to have all this drama and have some sort of need for the bad things this girl does. I just know that she is really something that she doesn't put herself out to be and I can see that in her sometimes. As to say, she has every desireable trait that I want in a girl, but, she also has every trait that I don't want too.
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I just have to get up the gumption to call her or hang out or w/e, just something, to find time to talk to her about everything. I am going to call her tomorrow. I did yesterday but no luck, she wasn't home. So I'll update when I get the call through and do some talking.
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O yea, and for those who would want to trade my life for yours. No you wouldn't. My life consists of going to school, going home, sleeping, and eating in between. I don't even have time to take a crap. damn it. haha.
My advice to you guys is this, you have to put forth an effort to recieve an effort. If you try to advance yourself, then you will be advanced upon by others as well. I dunno, something like that.
 
Observer, you sound like you like the conflict this offers for you. She'll lie and that won't change. You somehow think there is somethign inside of her that makes her beautiful. That's sweet and all but you WILL be miserable. She will not be true to you. She might even cheat if the possibility arrises. She's drunk or drugged at some point and that just makes things difficult.

DG is right. You are thinking of her like this because of the strain in your life. You also can't stop thinking about her because she's always around you. She obviously likes you but what she's offering you right now is the crap you'd have to deal with if you become intimate with her. Or at least closer in your relationship. If you started to consider another girl, you'd see a certain amount of normalcy that might seem more stable and grounding for you. She is high as a kite, dude. She's all over the place and will not be a stable person to be with. There's a certain amount of excitement that comes with that, but it does not last! A normal girl will offer a certain amount of excitement along with a sense of stability.

It's up to you, but honestly, I'd just say remain friends with her, but that's it. Look elsewhere for a serious relationship, because you will get hurt if you do try her out!
 
Alright, I haven't read any reactions, so someone might have said this.

Get the fuck away from her.

Girls with troubles (especially if they're the gothy-type) are a one way rollercoaster ride to and through Hell.

Am I biased? Fuck yes.
Am I being honest in my biased opinion? Fuck yes.

Just my two cents.
 
There are two things that you say you can't live with: compuslive liars and people who do drugs... Even though this girl may seem to be everything you want, those two things that really bother you ARE going to set you up to be hurt. If she's a compulsive liar now, she'll continue to be a compulsive liar later... You can't change who people are, so she'll continue to be that way. And drugs are always bad for a relationship too, so that sucks.
I say don't get involved too much; there are more girls out there, more girls that won't screw your life up.
 
Originally Posted by The_Observer
Ok, life sucks. Lately I have been this sort of magnet for girls.

Oh man, your life is so bad. You should just end the suffering now.:mfinger: Quit showing off.:D
 
If you can fit masturbating in there, Id gladly trade places with you. Well, actually I wouldnt need to, becuase it would be the same as my life.


If shes lies to you, you should probably avoid her. A goth girl that lies and does drugs sounds like bad news. It sounds like you just have a crush. That's just my opinion. If you feel like pursuing her, good luck. I know how it feels to have a stong relationship with a girl, then for it to slowly die away, and to desprately want to get in contact again, even though you haven't spoken in months.
 
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