quacker-roo
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I'm 28 years old and we have 2 kids
I have been w/ my husband for 8 years/ 5 years married
Our relationship has always been rocky and our connection as a couple has totally tanked !!! I thought as we got older we would have grown into loving eachother more and I never imagined that my husband would be completely checked out of this marriage !!!!
i tell him every couple months .....That we need to make some effort to try and be connected as a couple , that i cant do it alone and be the only one who cares about it .....we cant just be stagnant ! I don't have any problems communicating to him how important it has always been for me to have us nurture this marriage. He on the other hand completely doesn't care, shows no interest and has totally blown me off !
In a fight last year He pretty much told me he doesn't value what i do .......so i guess that means " he doesn't care about putting in the work it takes to sustain a marriage " but doesn't want a divorce!! i just don't get it ! i have told him , leave me if your not happy b/c he sure as shit doesn't show that he care s
We don't do anything together and I'm the only one trying to start dialogue about this b/c i want us to have a solid relationship. I'm not asking for roses and romance here....
all Imo asking is for Just maybe once a month we set some alone time together to do something fun ......we have never done this in our entire 5 year marriage ! He is unaffectionate, no kissing , hardly any sex, doesn't really look me in the eyes , has his face constantly glued to the tv ....i cant ever get his attention .....
Its like my existence make no difference to him .....
He has no problem getting his shit together to see his friends or to make sure he sets lots of time aside for sports or for his son But when it comes to me i'm completely on the back burner and alone in my marriage and I don't know what to do anymore, i'm at my end w/ this i'm tired of threatening to end our marriage over this but, what else can i do ? He just doesn't care ! I cant keep asking for him to get on board w/ me on this ........and i cant keep feeling alone in my marriage !
what to do
I have been w/ my husband for 8 years/ 5 years married
Our relationship has always been rocky and our connection as a couple has totally tanked !!! I thought as we got older we would have grown into loving eachother more and I never imagined that my husband would be completely checked out of this marriage !!!!
i tell him every couple months .....That we need to make some effort to try and be connected as a couple , that i cant do it alone and be the only one who cares about it .....we cant just be stagnant ! I don't have any problems communicating to him how important it has always been for me to have us nurture this marriage. He on the other hand completely doesn't care, shows no interest and has totally blown me off !
In a fight last year He pretty much told me he doesn't value what i do .......so i guess that means " he doesn't care about putting in the work it takes to sustain a marriage " but doesn't want a divorce!! i just don't get it ! i have told him , leave me if your not happy b/c he sure as shit doesn't show that he care s
We don't do anything together and I'm the only one trying to start dialogue about this b/c i want us to have a solid relationship. I'm not asking for roses and romance here....
all Imo asking is for Just maybe once a month we set some alone time together to do something fun ......we have never done this in our entire 5 year marriage ! He is unaffectionate, no kissing , hardly any sex, doesn't really look me in the eyes , has his face constantly glued to the tv ....i cant ever get his attention .....
Its like my existence make no difference to him .....
He has no problem getting his shit together to see his friends or to make sure he sets lots of time aside for sports or for his son But when it comes to me i'm completely on the back burner and alone in my marriage and I don't know what to do anymore, i'm at my end w/ this i'm tired of threatening to end our marriage over this but, what else can i do ? He just doesn't care ! I cant keep asking for him to get on board w/ me on this ........and i cant keep feeling alone in my marriage !
what to do