hardeeharhar
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heres the story, i started seeing this guy 2 years back, everything went well, we instantly connected,had such a great time together, we wouldnt really even argue because we would work through disagreements smoothly.. half a year later he went to jail for battery, i visited him every weekend, wrote everyday.. [all of which were obviously a big mistake now that i look back]. he got out last november, things were a little different now tho, he was now possessive which lead to arguing.. i became pregnant which he was thrilled about since he had always begged me to have his child... well the first 3 months of the pregnancy were great, we were both excited, he wanted to be involved in everything.. getting deeper into the pregnancy he changed drastically, he would blame it on not being able to find work and said once he did he wouldnt be so stressed out, i thought that made sense & also i thought it had to do with my hormonal changes [the mood swings,not wanting to have sex], since he was not very understanding of either..things got worse and worse, he began leaving for days everytime we had a fight, no longer really showed that much interest in the pregnancy even tho he would firmly state that we were "everything to him".. i ended up kicking him out 2 months ago after he physically attacked me.. since then he would contact me exactly every 2 weeks on a thursday, would show up on saturday morning and cause some sort of damage.. i do have a restraining order against him but it does not keep him away obviously. whenever i am out with my girlfriends & a friend of his sees me, they immediately report to him & he will show up in literally 5 minutes to drag me away or at least try to, & it's always the same "who are you here with, what are u doing here, who are u *******, why dont u care about making our family work, i love you but you care nothing about what i want or say & youre out while carrying my baby most likely being a slut"..all of which are said over the phone when he decides to call as well, sure he asks about his baby & my well being but it is quickly followed by all of this. he's told me repeatedly "i am never letting u go, not as long as im alive, you & my baby are my world", which is clearly crap to me since he has not even helped w/anything regarding the baby. on one occasion he saw me talking to a friends bf & without even saying a word he ran over & attacked the guy, telling him to stay away from me. he's broken into my home twice in the past month, the last time he choked me when he was inside because he thought i was sleeping with someone. last night i was out with two close friends of mine [male and female], a friend of his saw me, immediately got on his cell phone, & in less than 5 minutes the ex shows up... "who are u here with, what are u doing here", this time i ignore him completely, his response was "dont act like u dont know me, i love u, now who are u here with, i dont give a **** ill smack u around right here, so answer me"... he ends up seeing that i am with my friends & physically attacked my male friend... i call the cops, he gets arrested, i find out he is dealing coke again [something which he had been doing in the past since he was 17], the officers were baffled by his jealousy because he was carrying condoms in his wallet.. & now so am i, what is this guys problem? it makes no sense to me... he can do what he pleases but i am to stay forever committed to him even tho we are no longer in a relationship?! i am completely confused about how things ended up this way.. one thing i know for sure is i am getting full custody of my daughter once she is born.