need advice on mental health

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Gunnz

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Hi, just need a few advice from an expert out there about a friend.

My friend has just suffered from a bad breakup with his longtime girlfriend who cheated on him after 3 years. However, he was very much in love with her and thus, had decided to patch with her, and did so within the shortest time after he found out about the cheating. This decision was made by my friend despite many advices from good friends and family not to do so.
Just a few months down the road, i realized that there was a change in his character and I am thus wondering am I just over sensitive or is it really happening. I was thinking that maybe due to the insecurity that he now feels over the relationship and over the decision he has made, it has changed him. Unlike the past, he now always wants to be right irregardless how trivial the conversation is, and will argue till people agrees with him. And this is just an example of the change, amongst others. Would any expert in this area be able to advice me is there really a medical condition for my friend's behavior and mental health? and if so what other symptoms are there? OR am I just being over sensitive and this is just a passing stage in his life(hopefully).
Would appreciate any help :) thank you!
 
Actually I know somebody also whose personality changed after going through alot of hurt and disappointment in her relationship, one that she is still in. My guess from what I have seen in my friend, who by the way acts the exact same as your friend now, is that they give up their " real selves " in the relationship, just to keep it, just to have somebody, yet at the same time, deep down, they are embarrassed to know that you know what they have gone through and that they are giving that person another chance. So they tend to make up for lost time ( not on purpose or to be mean ) by loudly voicing their opinion to anybody and everybody else that they can, arguing their point, and having to be right, to save face and make themselves feel better, since they have NO control at all in the relationship, they try to have control elsewhere. Also, the cheating is so devastating, that the innocent party is usually pretty shaken up and this changes them completely, as they realize they have no control at all and are waiting for the next bomb to drop, so inside, they are a mess. My friend is also on very shaky ground emotionally now too, as any little thing her BF says or does, is now suspect, so that makes her on edge alot, which comes out as her trying to bulldoze people and run everybody else, and have a temper, because she certainly can't run him. Just a guess but this is what I noticed in my friend.
 
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