My fiance' is in the Marine Corp and has been gone for about 18 months, he was originally stationed in Okinawa but has been deployed other places while being there, and currently he is in Afghanistan for a few months.
During this deployement my fiance' has broken almost every promise he has made to me, he has let me down and disappointed me at every turn. There have been things that I needed him to do for me that he promised he would do....then never does. There have even been times when he has said he sent me a package....but it never reaches me (it ALWAYS gets lost in military mail). I went to Japan to visit him and bought my family souvineers and he was supposed to ship them (they wouldnt fit in my luggage) but its been 8 weeks and my family has not received them. I believe he never sent them. This is not the only incident. There have been times when he would say he sent me a gift and I would never get. He sells dreams. He uses the military as an excuse for why he cant come through on ANYTHING. Whenever I need him....he is not there 4 me. I know he is busy and being with a soldier is not a "typical" realtionship....but come on....if 1+1 doesnt equal 2 on a consistent basis....you have to wonder.
I dont suspect that there is another woman or anything (I have my reasons)....I have even gone as far as asking him if he still wants the relationship, if he didnt I'd be hurt...but I would rather know the truth. He swears he does and swear and promises to make things right, and to make it up to me. But at this point I dont believe much of what he says and I feel emotionally drained by the whole situation.
Even with all the let downs I still support him fully (letters, cards, care packages) ......but my sadness and disappointment is turning to ANGER and I feel like I dont want to continue doing things for him because he is taking me for granted.
He is making plans for us for when he comes home. But I have decided to go back to school because I felt like I couldnt continue to put my life on hold for somebody so unreliable. I want to give things a fair chance when he gets back (in 7 MONTHS!)....But I cant go on feeling like this. YES I have told him how I feel. But if you are seperated from somebody it is very difficult to actually resolve a problem with them.
I feel left behind, alone, unsupported, taken advantage of and let down. Anybody who has experienced this on a deployment PLEASE HELP.
ANY ADVICE WOULD BE APPRECIATED.
During this deployement my fiance' has broken almost every promise he has made to me, he has let me down and disappointed me at every turn. There have been things that I needed him to do for me that he promised he would do....then never does. There have even been times when he has said he sent me a package....but it never reaches me (it ALWAYS gets lost in military mail). I went to Japan to visit him and bought my family souvineers and he was supposed to ship them (they wouldnt fit in my luggage) but its been 8 weeks and my family has not received them. I believe he never sent them. This is not the only incident. There have been times when he would say he sent me a gift and I would never get. He sells dreams. He uses the military as an excuse for why he cant come through on ANYTHING. Whenever I need him....he is not there 4 me. I know he is busy and being with a soldier is not a "typical" realtionship....but come on....if 1+1 doesnt equal 2 on a consistent basis....you have to wonder.
I dont suspect that there is another woman or anything (I have my reasons)....I have even gone as far as asking him if he still wants the relationship, if he didnt I'd be hurt...but I would rather know the truth. He swears he does and swear and promises to make things right, and to make it up to me. But at this point I dont believe much of what he says and I feel emotionally drained by the whole situation.
Even with all the let downs I still support him fully (letters, cards, care packages) ......but my sadness and disappointment is turning to ANGER and I feel like I dont want to continue doing things for him because he is taking me for granted.
He is making plans for us for when he comes home. But I have decided to go back to school because I felt like I couldnt continue to put my life on hold for somebody so unreliable. I want to give things a fair chance when he gets back (in 7 MONTHS!)....But I cant go on feeling like this. YES I have told him how I feel. But if you are seperated from somebody it is very difficult to actually resolve a problem with them.
I feel left behind, alone, unsupported, taken advantage of and let down. Anybody who has experienced this on a deployment PLEASE HELP.
ANY ADVICE WOULD BE APPRECIATED.