J-Rod45669
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i am on my 2nd marriage as is my wife. she gets irritated with me all the time and says i dont take my marriage serious and that it suffers and she suffers because i have mental problems about my first marriage. we have been together for 7 years, married for 4. i dont buy gifts for my wife for any holiday or event, in my mind its just a waste of time and money. if i start doing these things she will expect them and become happy. a happy wife gets lippy and wonders around where and when she wants. i dont allow my current wife to associate with any of my family members, they think she is stuk up and trashy. thats the way i want it because if we ever separate i think she if she knew and got along with my family that she will use my family against like my first wife. the biggest thing is i never bought her a wedding ring or engagement ring. she thouht that after we got married that i would do that, whats the point....i done all of these things with my first wife and it didnt work out so why do it now. i learned my lessons. she can buy me all the bday gifts and xmas and valentines day gifts she wants that doesnt me i should do it to. my wife says its embarrassing to even go out in public with me anymore. my first wife didnt work but you better believe this one does, and i make sure this one takes care of herself. if she cant afford it then she doesnt get it. right now she goes to school full time, she is takeing 15 credit hours and she works full time. her computer recently blew up and she thinks that i should shell out the money for a new one. the way i see it she can go to the library 3 hours a day and do her school work for free. thats not my problem. when she gets her income taxes back she can buy a computer. she even got angry with me because she wanted a bike for over 3 years to ride on the bike trail for exercise. i bought my first wife one, she didnt ride it and it was a waste of money. my wife has 4 boys and the father pays no child support, thats not my fault either, all of her money goes to raising her boys. she will just have to do without and deal with it. i have my money she has hers i will spend mine how i see fit and it wont be on her. im not out whoring around with other women i just prefer to spend my money on myself. thats all. but i think my marriage to my current wife counts, i just dont know how to make her see that it does. i wont bow down to this one or do anything with her that i did with wife number 1. my kids throw these things in her face but thats just life, she needs to deal with it and move on. should i just tell her if she dont like it to hit the road or just ignore her whiny bi*chy complaints?