should I be worried? My son is 18 years old. He works, spends most of his time at home playing video games and he goes to the gym quite a bit as well. Ever since my son was young, he would stay away from girls his age, he won't say anything to them, and stay completely away from them entirely. Every Sunday we go to church(my son and I, I'm divorced and there isn't a father figure in his life) and there is this very pretty and attractive girl who goes with her mother as well, she's 17.Every time we go I catch my son looking at her every now and then while the study is going on, but he doesn't know I notice and one time last week his face went red(I guess she looked back at him, but I never have brought it up). We've been going to the same one since he was 11(7 years) and for that entire time my son has never talked to her once in 7 years, the mother of the girl and I often talk at church and are actually fairly good friends, the girl is also single and has tried smiling at my son before but he won't even make eye contact with her, my son won't ever go near her(even when he was 11). Her mother told me her daughter thought my son was cute (the daughter didn't want anyone to know) but wonders why he hasn't even ever introduced himself or even talked to her before after 7 years.
He's very good looking (NOT saying as a mother but as a female to comparison to other men and his father was very attractive as well) he goes to the gym often, he has friends who are guys but he has never once mentioned a girl, ever had a girlfriend or I don't remember even the last time he talked to a girl? He;s normally a very social person but whenever an attractive girl is near or present, he won't go near her, won't talk to her, won't make eye contact and will stay in a different area entirely, whether if I'm there or if its at school, work etc. I don't expect him to talk about girls to me since I'm his mom etc, but our church is VERY LARGE with over 300 who attend, and every sunday after church the mother of the daughter and I chat with others in the main lobby usually for 40-60minutes, and I asked her where her daughter goes after to wait, and she just waits in the rec room alone(which is a room down a few hallfways) and she plays pool by herself waiting there until we leave,and my son will just go sit and wait in the car and wait there by himself, when he he has every opportunity to go play pool or talk with this girl in privacy. I'm not pushing him, but I just find it strange that he knows she's there by herself waiting for her mom to finish talking with others, and he just goes and sits in the car and doesn't bother to socialize.. I just find it a little strange about the situation after church, is this just shyness or should I be worried something is wrong? He turns 19 in 10 months.
He's very good looking (NOT saying as a mother but as a female to comparison to other men and his father was very attractive as well) he goes to the gym often, he has friends who are guys but he has never once mentioned a girl, ever had a girlfriend or I don't remember even the last time he talked to a girl? He;s normally a very social person but whenever an attractive girl is near or present, he won't go near her, won't talk to her, won't make eye contact and will stay in a different area entirely, whether if I'm there or if its at school, work etc. I don't expect him to talk about girls to me since I'm his mom etc, but our church is VERY LARGE with over 300 who attend, and every sunday after church the mother of the daughter and I chat with others in the main lobby usually for 40-60minutes, and I asked her where her daughter goes after to wait, and she just waits in the rec room alone(which is a room down a few hallfways) and she plays pool by herself waiting there until we leave,and my son will just go sit and wait in the car and wait there by himself, when he he has every opportunity to go play pool or talk with this girl in privacy. I'm not pushing him, but I just find it strange that he knows she's there by herself waiting for her mom to finish talking with others, and he just goes and sits in the car and doesn't bother to socialize.. I just find it a little strange about the situation after church, is this just shyness or should I be worried something is wrong? He turns 19 in 10 months.