Growing up, me and my older sister were on and off when it came to our relationship. She is 5 years older than me. Things kind of unraveled when she fell in love, got married and moved out against my mother's wishes. So of course, this put a strain on our relationship because it was my mom vs. my sister. I still tried to keep in touch with her still and we managed to do that. She had a baby a year ago and I try to visit the baby as much as I can. However, since my mom refuses to have any part in their life - that again puts me in a bad predicament. In a way, I feel my sister resents me for the actions of my mother simply because I live with her. I dont even have a great relationship with my mom anymore because of this. My sister wont even let me babysit her baby. Her sister in law, who is the same age as me, is their official nanny - and I feel that my sister favors her so much more over me. I always see her writing sweet encouraging comments to her on FB and she just ignores me when I write to her.
My sister initially asked me to be the baby's nanny, but I needed a full-time higher paying job because I pay my bills, as well as my moms (which is HER mom too so you'd think she'd care). So I declined and ever since then, she acts like she hates me. She calls me a snob to her sister-in-law. When I go over to visit the baby, she doesnt say one word to me. It has become so awkward and tension filled that I stopped visiting them altogether. I want to see my nephew but not when she acts so hateful. Now she despises me even more for not visting her baby. She said she wants me to spend more time w/ him, but I'd rather spend time with him alone and not with her around, but she wont allow that. It hurts my feelings, but I doubt she realizes that. Am I in the wrong here? Does she have a right to resent me so much?
I'll never forget that time we ended up at the same concert (she went with her sis in law) - and I was so surpised to see her. I ran up to her to say hi, and she just brushed me off. She looked at me and walked away - completely ignoring me, too immersed in her convo with her REAL sister. Ugh. Or that time I arrived at his 1st bday party and she got up and walked away when she saw me approaching. Honestly....how does she expect me to have any part in her life (or her baby) when she behaves like such a rude snob?!
My sister initially asked me to be the baby's nanny, but I needed a full-time higher paying job because I pay my bills, as well as my moms (which is HER mom too so you'd think she'd care). So I declined and ever since then, she acts like she hates me. She calls me a snob to her sister-in-law. When I go over to visit the baby, she doesnt say one word to me. It has become so awkward and tension filled that I stopped visiting them altogether. I want to see my nephew but not when she acts so hateful. Now she despises me even more for not visting her baby. She said she wants me to spend more time w/ him, but I'd rather spend time with him alone and not with her around, but she wont allow that. It hurts my feelings, but I doubt she realizes that. Am I in the wrong here? Does she have a right to resent me so much?
I'll never forget that time we ended up at the same concert (she went with her sis in law) - and I was so surpised to see her. I ran up to her to say hi, and she just brushed me off. She looked at me and walked away - completely ignoring me, too immersed in her convo with her REAL sister. Ugh. Or that time I arrived at his 1st bday party and she got up and walked away when she saw me approaching. Honestly....how does she expect me to have any part in her life (or her baby) when she behaves like such a rude snob?!