MoparMaxivan
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So, its Friday morning and I can't find hardly any of my shirts to wear to school. Somehow they disappeared. I looked everywhere, the washer, dryer, laundry basket, drawers, closet, under my bed. They were gone. Also, I came home one day with 4 different shirts from the mall, one magically disappeared.
I really regret doing this, but I just get so frusterated when avoidable things like these happen, I blamed it on my mom. It was dumb of me to do that, but I insisted my mom took them or misplaced them herself. I don't know why in the world she would do that, but it was early in the morning and God dammit, they just disappeared on me.
She gave a lecture about "how dare you say I stole your shirts?" and I said sorry and that it was a dumb accusation, but that wasn't good enough for her. She started crying. Then she tells me it's under all the crap in my closet and I never cleaned out my closet when she asked me to. When she told me to clean my closet, I heard her and went into my closet looked around. Nothing was out-of place except for a few pants that weren't folded properly.
I tell my friends about it and one of them says "Thats not that big on an accusation, even if it's stupid, it's really not that bad." He compared it to a bigger accusation like blaming the suicide of someone on my mom, and said how small the other one was.
After school I see her again and shes still crying. Then comes another lecture about how everything said about her is always negative, even after all that she does for me. I tried being really nice to her and said what she wanted to hear in the sincerest way possible, but shes still mad at me. I go into my room and what do I see? All of my shirts and pants on my bed folded for me. Now maybe she meant what she said in the car, but this is 1) a guilt trip or 2) she was looking for my shirts herself so she could prove herself right. Maybe both. But, there were no shirts that I couldn't find before. She was wrong about them being under my pants.
I tell her that I appreciate the folding and the time out of her day to do that, and I will put them all away. Then she doesn't leave it at that, she keeps on looking for the shirts. She goes through them all in my sister's closet, which is WAY worse than mine. She finds 1 out of 3 shirts. In my sister's closet.
I told her don't worry about it, it was an honest mistake. Let's leave it at that, after all it is just a couple of shirts. No big deal. No, shes still looking for them as we speak.
I feel like a brat, yelling at my mom like that, but I always thank her for driving me places, making me dinner, etc. I apologized. I said it was stupid of me. She still insists our familys always putting her down. And she is partly right. But we all treat her like a normal person and thank her for things that she does for us, what more does she want? Maybe my dad puts her down, but thats not the whole family. The rest of us still treat her well.
Any advice on what I could say to her?
I really regret doing this, but I just get so frusterated when avoidable things like these happen, I blamed it on my mom. It was dumb of me to do that, but I insisted my mom took them or misplaced them herself. I don't know why in the world she would do that, but it was early in the morning and God dammit, they just disappeared on me.
She gave a lecture about "how dare you say I stole your shirts?" and I said sorry and that it was a dumb accusation, but that wasn't good enough for her. She started crying. Then she tells me it's under all the crap in my closet and I never cleaned out my closet when she asked me to. When she told me to clean my closet, I heard her and went into my closet looked around. Nothing was out-of place except for a few pants that weren't folded properly.
I tell my friends about it and one of them says "Thats not that big on an accusation, even if it's stupid, it's really not that bad." He compared it to a bigger accusation like blaming the suicide of someone on my mom, and said how small the other one was.
After school I see her again and shes still crying. Then comes another lecture about how everything said about her is always negative, even after all that she does for me. I tried being really nice to her and said what she wanted to hear in the sincerest way possible, but shes still mad at me. I go into my room and what do I see? All of my shirts and pants on my bed folded for me. Now maybe she meant what she said in the car, but this is 1) a guilt trip or 2) she was looking for my shirts herself so she could prove herself right. Maybe both. But, there were no shirts that I couldn't find before. She was wrong about them being under my pants.
I tell her that I appreciate the folding and the time out of her day to do that, and I will put them all away. Then she doesn't leave it at that, she keeps on looking for the shirts. She goes through them all in my sister's closet, which is WAY worse than mine. She finds 1 out of 3 shirts. In my sister's closet.
I told her don't worry about it, it was an honest mistake. Let's leave it at that, after all it is just a couple of shirts. No big deal. No, shes still looking for them as we speak.
I feel like a brat, yelling at my mom like that, but I always thank her for driving me places, making me dinner, etc. I apologized. I said it was stupid of me. She still insists our familys always putting her down. And she is partly right. But we all treat her like a normal person and thank her for things that she does for us, what more does she want? Maybe my dad puts her down, but thats not the whole family. The rest of us still treat her well.
Any advice on what I could say to her?
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