my parents argue/don't get along, please help?

[Travis K]

Its a very long story... but my parents split up when i was really young, and now im 15 and they got back together. It was all good for a few weeks, but now they dont get along at all and they argue alot. My dad says shes affected by her ex boyfriends (they harmed her in some way that shes changed) and he doesnt wanna go through this again. My mom always said she wanted to live with just me in a little place, no boyfriends just us. So i started helping her out with the house, dishes, etc... so she can relax and not worry about stuff. This is really effecting me, and it has been my whole life. Ive had to put up with alot of stress as a kid, and i think i might have developed some kind of anxiety. I cant talk to them about it because nothing helps, even if they know if hurts me. To get to the point, i sometimes find my self in my room, with a shit load of thoughts going through my mind, sad, and even slighty depressed. It is REALLY effecting me, and i try to explain that to them and nothing. What can i do to get through this. im not like suicidal or anything but its stressing me out and its not my fault and i dont want the stress and im sick of it. Would it be better if my dad left and moved although i would miss him? Please help...what can i do?

 

[beek]

Not likely you can do a whole lot but sometimes all it takes is a kind word or a cheerful attitude to temper a situation. You may be able to make things a little bit better just by always being positive. Let them know in a kind way from time to time that it bothers you. (not to much or it will seem like nagging). Also one thing I've noticed is that many who go through hardships and have the courage and determination to not let it bring them down end up as very strong people when they grow up. They also are not as likely to let that happen to them. So if you fight through it you may find yourself a better person for it. Another personal note is that it is my faith and relationship with Christ that means so much to me as He promised to never leave or forsake me and He never has. All the best to you.

 

[it takes time]

You're only 15 my friend, I think you should focus more on something else rather than worrying about your parents. I'm not saying that you should just ignore them, what i'm trying to tell you is that they're old enough already to know what is wrong and whats right. You worrying alone won't solve the problem, you're just going to torture yourself. It is really up to them to settle this problem, let them take care! Just focus on your studies, do your very best so that one day you're going to be successful man. Let this be a lesson to you and learn from it, its going to help you in the future when you have your own family. Its going to be your guidance on how a (good) family should be. You must really love them for worrying this much. Don't let this matter destroy you, instead use it to fuel yourself to become the best you can be. You don't hold the key, they do.