my mother wants to walk me down the isle even though my father has been present in

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my life.? My mother is pretty insistent that she walk me down the isle despite the fact that my father has been a positive and stable parent in my life. They are divorced and there is quite a bit of bitterness on my mom's part. She's pretty competitive with him, so I feel that that is at the root of it. She doesn't want to walk me down the isle alone, but rather with my father. I feel very strongly that I've always wanted to stick with the traditional father walking me down the isle thing. and my father already told me he would be crushed if that moment was taken from him. I get the feeling my mom is just in it for the attention because she also suggested we have a mother/daughter dance in addition to the father/daughter dance. I politely declined these ideas by saying I don't want my dress to be squished with two people walking me down the isle and offering to let her do a unity candle in the ceremony. she said no.. that "everybody does that and we should be different". I don't want to be different. I just want traditional. It shouldn't be this hard but someone gets hurt no matter what I do!