my mother-in-law is controlling my step-daughter's life like we're bad parents! ?

[mary a]

Married and have a step-daughter and two of my kids. She controls the granddaughter like she's her daughter! She making my step-daughter think that we're bad parents. which is not true we have a fun-loving and happy relationship with our kids. and whats worse is that we live with the them for a little bit to save on a house.

 

[changemyraintosun]

I would not say anything to the kids. I would go straight to the source. Ask "Do you think we're bad parents?" "Then why do you imply that to the children?" Tell her that you were raised to believe that the role of a Grandmother was to build up the parents to the children and reinforce what they were being taught. Don't be confrontational, keep your tone neutral. Act like you're confused and just trying to understand what's going on. Keep the kids themselves out of it, they should not have to take sides.

 

[barb]

Sounds like you are between a rock and a hard place, As long as you live with them you will have problems like that. No matter how good of parents you are, mother in laws don't agree. They always think they can do it better. Just have a private talk with your step daughter and explain to her that you are doing the best you can. And that soon you will all have your own home. I do not envy you in this situation, you will have to make the best of it, until you can get to your own home. me my self I think I would live in a tent first. but you do what you have to do.
Good luck, hope all goes well until you are on your own.