but what might happen? I have been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half. She has bi-polar, BPD, and AD-HD. Her mom has an even stronger form of bipolar, and other issues on top of that. The two together don't mix. At all. And it's only the two of them living in the home. Her mom doesn't have a job, yet she always seems to have money. She is hardly ever home, and when she is, all they seem to do is fight. They get in fights very often. They both blow a small situation into what seems like a volcanic eruption from hell. They throw things at each other and get very physical, sometimes to the point of police getting called or severely hurting the other. I have been there plenty of times, and luckily been able to calm my girlfriend down before things blew WAY out of proportion. But when I'm not there, things get to out of hand. And when these fights break out, my girlfriend ends up being the one to pay the price. She has been in and out of juvi multiple times, because her mother tells the cops she is the one who did it all. Even when I've been there to see it. I can't go against it though, because I'm scared her mom will not allow me to see her again.
My parents, as well as the rest of my family, love my girlfriend to death. They have watched her progress over the last year and a half, and they have heard what has been going on throughout that time frame. My girlfriend doesn't deserve most of the treatment she gets, but there are times when I have seen her get punished for her actions in the correct way, and she is the one who instigated the fight because of that.
My parents have talked to me about it, and I'm a little bit worried. They told me they have thought it over and would like to go through and file for custody of her. They don't want to keep her from her mom, but they would like to get her in a stable environment with stable parents, in a good schooling system, and give her a chance to grow up without other interruptions. And I don't live with my parents, I live with my grandparents, so we wouldn't be living together. My mom had several good points to what she said. But she wanted me to think on it before I made a decision as to whether they should or not. The reason it's up to me, is because my mom was in prison from 2001 to 2003 over a drug charge(which is why I live with my grandparents), and she is worried I will think she would much rather take care of another kid than me. So yes, my mother has had a felony.But today she has a background free husband, a great and prospering job, and nice house. And if you drug tested both my mom and hers today, my mom would pass with flying colors and her mom would fail miserably if you get what I'm trying to say.
So now, my question. . .
If I tell my mom to go through with it, will the fact that she was a convicted felon make the judge say NO.
Because I truly love my girlfriend and I am worried that if her mom tries to fight it and we lose over my moms PAST, her mother will never let me see her again for the fear that I may try to take her daughter.
But moving in with my mom is not only what is best for my girlfriend, but it is something she does want.
I just don't want to say yes, and have everything mess up and me never get to see her again.
Will a felony ruin my moms chances?
I am 18 and my girlfriend is 17 by the way.
I didn't say she was going to adopt her. She is wanting to get custody of her.
My parents, as well as the rest of my family, love my girlfriend to death. They have watched her progress over the last year and a half, and they have heard what has been going on throughout that time frame. My girlfriend doesn't deserve most of the treatment she gets, but there are times when I have seen her get punished for her actions in the correct way, and she is the one who instigated the fight because of that.
My parents have talked to me about it, and I'm a little bit worried. They told me they have thought it over and would like to go through and file for custody of her. They don't want to keep her from her mom, but they would like to get her in a stable environment with stable parents, in a good schooling system, and give her a chance to grow up without other interruptions. And I don't live with my parents, I live with my grandparents, so we wouldn't be living together. My mom had several good points to what she said. But she wanted me to think on it before I made a decision as to whether they should or not. The reason it's up to me, is because my mom was in prison from 2001 to 2003 over a drug charge(which is why I live with my grandparents), and she is worried I will think she would much rather take care of another kid than me. So yes, my mother has had a felony.But today she has a background free husband, a great and prospering job, and nice house. And if you drug tested both my mom and hers today, my mom would pass with flying colors and her mom would fail miserably if you get what I'm trying to say.
So now, my question. . .
If I tell my mom to go through with it, will the fact that she was a convicted felon make the judge say NO.
Because I truly love my girlfriend and I am worried that if her mom tries to fight it and we lose over my moms PAST, her mother will never let me see her again for the fear that I may try to take her daughter.
But moving in with my mom is not only what is best for my girlfriend, but it is something she does want.
I just don't want to say yes, and have everything mess up and me never get to see her again.
Will a felony ruin my moms chances?
I am 18 and my girlfriend is 17 by the way.
I didn't say she was going to adopt her. She is wanting to get custody of her.