My mom just doesn't listen to anything I say, how do I get her to stop what she's doing?

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I'm 18, 19 in one month and I'm 9 months pregnant (38 weeks), I'm not even going to bother typing how inconsiderate she is about my pregnancy because saying it is pointless.

But the problem I am having is, I have an apartment and I pay rent with the money I get from Social Services. I HAD to go on it to get out of my mother's house. It is an unstable environment. She must be bipolar all she would do is come home from work and no joke, SCREAM about anything all night, slam drawers, doors, cupboards, etc. I cannot raise my son in that house with her like that. She keeps her furnace at 54 degrees, I used to freeze every night.

Anyways, my point is, she called my LANDLORD. And ''demanded rent receipts'' she told him she wrote a list of receipts for him to sign for all of the months I have been here.

I don't get receipts from him when I give him rent, sure it might be ''risky'' but it is NOT up to her to do that. She used to always just harrass me to get receipts, but she isn't even the one paying rent! She doesn't pay ANYTHING. She took me off of her freaking insurance so she wouldn't have to pay anything. She goes to NONE of my doctor appointments. I can't figure out why she has to just harrass me about my life. I am preparing to be a mother, I can't have her doing these things.

And it WILL escalate. I know it will. It started with WIC, she kept SCREAMING at me, calling WIC every day, making appointments for me to go, she called and made about 6 or 7 appointments for me to go to that I missed because I don't NEED it but she wants me to give my checks to her so she can get free food. I explained that I already have food stamps, $200, 350 once the baby comes, I don't NEED WIC, but I ended up going and getting it anyways and once I got on it and received checks, she didn't even want them!

She just wants power trips. And I can't avoid it because she calls IMPORTANT people. She calls Social Services, my LANDLORD, WIC and she it's almost as if she is trying to make me look irresponsible by setting up appointments that I DON'T WANT TO GO TO, so I miss them.

I explained to my WIC case worker what was going on, but I just don't know what to do. I don't know how to get her to stop she is harrassing me. I don't want to call the cops on her, I just can't figure out how to get her to stop.


I have had COUNTLESS talks with her about this, I explain that she needs to respect my independence and have a little more regard about the fact that I'm pregnant, but whenever I try telling her these things, she gets defensive and starts screaming "YOU are one to talk about respect! You're always mean to me!"
I say I'm sorry if I call you names but I get really mad when you do these things, it's annoying.

I called her an a$$hole because she kept telling me to quit ''talking to my baby as if he were alive'' I haven't even had him yet ''I don't even know if he'll make it'' then she went on about stillborns.

Another thing she said was that I could ''die giving birth and to write a will and plan on who would have my baby if I die''

Just tonight she came here to use my computer, and she started going ON and ON about how PAINFUL labor is she said ''well it's not as bad as if someone were to be stabbing you with a KNIFE, but it's pretty close. And it doesn't stop it's just torturous pain for HOURS''

I don't even want to hear it. She is being sadistic.


I want her OUT of my life, and if she is in it, I don't want her around as much as she has been.

The more I avoid her, the more she harrasses me and does things like this, calling my landlord, calling Social Services.


She had the NERVE to tell my landlord I was on Social Services!!! I wanted to be the one to tell him if he were to have asked, she is just violating me SO MUCH


I CAN'T GET HER TO STOP WHAT DO I DO


And I feel bad too though because she is so depressed and suicidal so wtf do I do.
 
ok, first of all she shouldn't be harassing you like that your expecting! anyways get a restraining order from the state or something... I don't believe in a mother that's over protective but I think that she might be a crazy... Hope this helps!!
 
dam that sucks so much...ok well dont call her your mom cuz she isnt one..sorry im just gonna b really straight with you...you dont need that bull shit in your life seriously...this is what i beleive no matter what u do in life your parents are always right but not in ur case thats crazy the way she says u can die and y do you talk to your baby...no thats not a mom at all

this is what i would do...i would move...and not tell her...im serious u cant do that you cant live your life like that ur going to get stressed out your child is not going to have a good life in that place...i feel like the reason your mom acts like that is because she thinks she failed as a mother or she doesnt know how to b a mom so this is the best way she can be...im not judging you but this is what a parent would think if my sis got pregnant at 18 my mom would think that she failed as a parent...but its not her business its your choice but thats the first thing that comes to my mind is that i feel like she thinks she failed as a mom...if she was always like this then i dont know what to say

but ya honestly i would leave...when u leave dont tell her where ur at so she wont call ur landlord and all that stuff...maybe that will open her eyes and realized what she did was wrong
 
dam that sucks so much...ok well dont call her your mom cuz she isnt one..sorry im just gonna b really straight with you...you dont need that bull shit in your life seriously...this is what i beleive no matter what u do in life your parents are always right but not in ur case thats crazy the way she says u can die and y do you talk to your baby...no thats not a mom at all

this is what i would do...i would move...and not tell her...im serious u cant do that you cant live your life like that ur going to get stressed out your child is not going to have a good life in that place...i feel like the reason your mom acts like that is because she thinks she failed as a mother or she doesnt know how to b a mom so this is the best way she can be...im not judging you but this is what a parent would think if my sis got pregnant at 18 my mom would think that she failed as a parent...but its not her business its your choice but thats the first thing that comes to my mind is that i feel like she thinks she failed as a mom...if she was always like this then i dont know what to say

but ya honestly i would leave...when u leave dont tell her where ur at so she wont call ur landlord and all that stuff...maybe that will open her eyes and realized what she did was wrong
 
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