My in laws treat my son like crap, but my daughter gets spoiled?

[Mistress Mary]

My has been raising my son from my previous marraige as his own for 3 years. We also have a daughter together. The issue is that on birthdays and christmas, they never get my son any presents. His birthday is the day before my daughters, so they will come over with bagsfull of stuff for her, and nothing for him. I have begged for this practice to stop....and they still forget him each time. Is it wrong of me to expect them to treat them as equal? My son is 6 my daughter 2. He is getting old enough to notice the fact that on christmas they come over with goodies for her, but he gets nothing and the same on his birthday. I have now set the rule that no gifts for him, none for her either meaning that I would not allow them to gift to my girl without something to him as well. This caused a fight where my sister in law pointed out that my son was not REALLY family. My husband is torn up, I am a wreck. How do we handle this and is it wrong of me to insist that they treat him equally?

 

[Setsuna]

Whoa!! The good thing is, your husband is on your side. If he's accepted your son as his own, your in laws shouldn't have a problem... If they do, they need to grow up.
It's not only fair, but absolutely necessary for you to keep an equal status between them, and it's your right as a mother to determine how you want people to treat you and your family! If they don't act accordingly, then they should stay away.