Tracy Genkins
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In May he got tested for Low Testosterone. It came back at 150! So, he was put on medication to help raise it. In September, he got retested and his level is now at 350. So, its going up, but his dr says he needs to be around 800. He is 33 yrs old. But in the mean time, his levels are rising, and he still has no desire for sex!? I dont get it. I thought once his levels go up, his desire would change too. Its been MONTHS since we've had sex. I dont know what to do. Ive done some google searching, and I cant find any information on if his levels are going up, why his desires are not changing with it?
Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks. I'll have to try different things with him. He doesnt really like to open up and talk.... I can see his levels are going up, and we've gone to counseling, and were told to take time for ourselves as a couple, since we have three small children. But I dont see my husband really making any effort in wanting to have that time together. I love it when he shows affection, which has been a very long time since he's even showed any at all to me. I feel like if he doesnt want to show me affection, then he doesnt want me near him, so I shouldnt show him affection. I get the feeling like I should "back off". Or he wants me to... by the way his actions tell me. I dont know... I would just really love to have some affection be shown to me, its been a very long time....
Ive tried to show him how much I love him, but he doesnt respond in any positive way about it. At first it hurt me, and now it makes me more angry than hurt because I get the feeling like I dont make him happy or Ive even brought up if there was someone else? But he kept saying no. IDK
He's not on any anti depressents... but Ive tried so many things to get him in the mood, and he gives all negative responces. Not to get too graphic... but Ive even tried to walk around naked in front of him... I know, I shouldnt say that... but Ive done it many times. He just has no responce. When I bring it up to him later how Ive tried my hardest to get things heated up, he tells me I didnt even do any of those things... I swear, I think somethings wrong with him. He cant recall me being naked? I have friends who are like brothers to me, and even an ex bf who is married, and were best of friends... I told him about this, and he literally didnt believe me at all! He said there is no way he could have not done anything with me being naked in front of him! He said there has to be something wrong! He said he sure the heck wouldnt have just did nothing.... LOL
Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks. I'll have to try different things with him. He doesnt really like to open up and talk.... I can see his levels are going up, and we've gone to counseling, and were told to take time for ourselves as a couple, since we have three small children. But I dont see my husband really making any effort in wanting to have that time together. I love it when he shows affection, which has been a very long time since he's even showed any at all to me. I feel like if he doesnt want to show me affection, then he doesnt want me near him, so I shouldnt show him affection. I get the feeling like I should "back off". Or he wants me to... by the way his actions tell me. I dont know... I would just really love to have some affection be shown to me, its been a very long time....
Ive tried to show him how much I love him, but he doesnt respond in any positive way about it. At first it hurt me, and now it makes me more angry than hurt because I get the feeling like I dont make him happy or Ive even brought up if there was someone else? But he kept saying no. IDK
He's not on any anti depressents... but Ive tried so many things to get him in the mood, and he gives all negative responces. Not to get too graphic... but Ive even tried to walk around naked in front of him... I know, I shouldnt say that... but Ive done it many times. He just has no responce. When I bring it up to him later how Ive tried my hardest to get things heated up, he tells me I didnt even do any of those things... I swear, I think somethings wrong with him. He cant recall me being naked? I have friends who are like brothers to me, and even an ex bf who is married, and were best of friends... I told him about this, and he literally didnt believe me at all! He said there is no way he could have not done anything with me being naked in front of him! He said there has to be something wrong! He said he sure the heck wouldnt have just did nothing.... LOL