My husbands ex gf keeping his kids away from him Judge says he has

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vistation how can make xgl follow jge order? I may not be the most perfect person in the world, but I would NEVER deny my kids the right to know their other parent....I know that certain of you think I have a problem, but the fact of the matter is I love my kids, and would never try to alienate them from their other parent. That being said, allow me to enlighten you all as to what my ex is doing.

She has basically decided to try to get our 5 year old and our 2 year old to call another man daddy, has actually asked me to give up my rights as a parent so that the dipshit she is engaged to can adopt them, and if that wasn't bad enuff, today she has filed for a protective order against me, all because I want to see my kids.

Now, this situation has been going over about a year now, and she claims that she is scared of me, and that I don't have a right to dictate what she does and who she dates or whatever. I could care less what she does, or who she dates. The whole thing boils down to this.....my life is starting to get better, and she feels threatened that because my life is getting better, I will try to take the kids from her. She likes to be in a position of control, and she isn't anymore.

Contrary to what she might think I do want her to be happy. At the same time what she is doing isn't right by the kids, and that is where she should be putting the emphasis. She claims that everytime my kids have seen me in the past that they were putting up a front because they really are scared of me. Nothing could be further from the truth....when my 5 year old wants to sit on my lap to go for a ride, that is not fear. That is a child who wants to spend time with his father.

My 2 year old is the same way. In the last 6 months, I have seen my kids maybe twice, and there are no court orders preventing me from seeing them or anythng like that. It is just their mother being a bitch and denying me my legal rights. Now tell me....where do you think the courts will go with this when this goes to court?
the po is for when my husband hit her for cheeating and that he spend his time in jail for and she is still punishing him
there is no written statement from the judge it was all verbal that the judge says that he should have visituation rights and overnights as well. that has not happen. so is she in contempt of court when what the judge says was all verbal?
this is my husbands ex girlfriend that he has children with. they were together for 11 years. I know that this is not my issue but trying to be supportive for my husband and stand up for fathers rights everywhere.
There is no set schedule for the children and no order of child support. but the judge says that everyman should be able to see his children. The Ex gl was going along with what the judge say untill feb. we don;t know what has happen or what.
 
she cant get an order of protection with out probable cause i kno, i tried! it depends on the situation u r in and the situation she is is, now ill remind u, courts dont necessarily "like" to separate children from their mother with out probable cause so make sure u state your case and make it well known ur doing well and u want to c them, maybe even tell her u will go for full custody if she doesnt let u c them... maybe it will scare her to the point of not wanting to take it to court.
good luck
 
she cant get an order of protection with out probable cause i kno, i tried! it depends on the situation u r in and the situation she is is, now ill remind u, courts dont necessarily "like" to separate children from their mother with out probable cause so make sure u state your case and make it well known ur doing well and u want to c them, maybe even tell her u will go for full custody if she doesnt let u c them... maybe it will scare her to the point of not wanting to take it to court.
good luck
 
Since a judge awarded you visitation rights, your ex is in contempt of court. You need to get your lawyer to help you sort this out.

The police will not help you unless a judge tells them to. If you call them, they will say that this is a civil matter.
 
If it is court appointed and you have the papers gp to the police to help in the exchange. If that doesn't work you have to go back to court to have a court ordered representative at all the exchanges.
 
So you actually are the dad and not the wife of the dad who is having this problem correct? Because your question says my husbands ex... and then you started talking in first person.

If you are the dad I have questions for you.

You say that their is a judges order....so do you have a visitation order or a child support order? Later in your post you say there is no court order PREVENTING you from seeing them but is there a court order ALLOWING you to see them?

When the hearing comes up for the protection order you need to attend or she wins by default. Now if you have made physical threats to her or been violent in the past and she has documentation of it she will win the award. If she has none of this and you don't show up she will win.

A five your old does NOT need to be sitting on your lap for a drive...period!! That is reckless parenting at the basic level and criminal in that it is endangerment of a child.

You probably need a lawyer to help you as you need court ordered visitation and then if she refuses you call the police and they go with you to pick up the kids. In court ordered visitation you will have days and times set for you to have the kids. Be sure you follow that time to the minute. If you are supposed to have the kids back by 6:00 p.m. on Sunday and you don't show up until 8 you will be going against the order and she can take you back to court with just cause. If you are going to be late, call or text, preferably text as the conversation is recorded in case you need it later in court.

Lastly, if you have court ordered child support PAY IT and pay early. If you don't have court ordered child support PAY her anyway and keep records.

EDIT: I read add. details and would advise dad to take a parenting class, an anger management class and enter into counseling. I don't care if she cheated with his best friend, his brother or his dad he should not have hit her BOTTOM LINE. Although for him to do jail time over it I am guessing it was more than a slap. He will have to jump through some hoops but if the kids are important enough to him he will do what it takes. Truthfully he needs to learn to be a better man just by what is said here. Abusing a woman, leaving a child unrestrained while a car is moving and previous jail time are not father of the year things but he can change if he wants too.

RE-EDIT: Judges NEVER do ANYTHING verbally. The only orders they give are WRITTEN and therefore no she is not in contempt of court as there is no WRITTEN ORDER to be followed!
 
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