three month business trip ...? Okay first of all, my husband is in the military so I know what I signed up for when I married him. I support him in almost everything. My husband has been deployed twice ... once when we were dating and once while we were husband and wife with our 8 month old daughter.
As of right now right now, he's in a different state for military purposes. I'm actually really proud of him ... but the problem is... He's gone for the next few months so the only way we can keep a healthy relationship is via phone/email.... we cannot unfortunately afford to travel to each other. He's always busy with school, gym, and guy-time. I have no problem with the first two but the third one is an issue because he works with them, stays in the same hotel building, go to the gym and goes out EVERY night! Weekends it's almost all day. He rarely calls me... it's usually me who calls... I want to know how to fit in his schedule. When he's home it's the same thing except it's work and gym. I want him to want to talk to me and still have his friends... it's not fair to me and my daughter. I miss him yet I can't stand him for this...I keep busy with work, shopping and raising our daughter... I have play dates and everything ... I just know how to manage my time I guess... I save my evenings and nights for him even when he doesn't. I don't know, I guess I'm feeling neglected and 3rd place.
I have talked to him about it. .. he tells me he loves me but that he's tired of hearing about it. That why can't this be simple... I trust him, I do not think he's cheating... in fact I hear the guys in the background half the time when I call. But I tried the not calling thing but I guess I'm too weak... because I end up calling him anyways. He's not normally this "distant" with me... this time it's a little too much. I just don't know what to do ... it makes me sad
thanks everyone for the advice! I will do my best to figure this out.
As of right now right now, he's in a different state for military purposes. I'm actually really proud of him ... but the problem is... He's gone for the next few months so the only way we can keep a healthy relationship is via phone/email.... we cannot unfortunately afford to travel to each other. He's always busy with school, gym, and guy-time. I have no problem with the first two but the third one is an issue because he works with them, stays in the same hotel building, go to the gym and goes out EVERY night! Weekends it's almost all day. He rarely calls me... it's usually me who calls... I want to know how to fit in his schedule. When he's home it's the same thing except it's work and gym. I want him to want to talk to me and still have his friends... it's not fair to me and my daughter. I miss him yet I can't stand him for this...I keep busy with work, shopping and raising our daughter... I have play dates and everything ... I just know how to manage my time I guess... I save my evenings and nights for him even when he doesn't. I don't know, I guess I'm feeling neglected and 3rd place.
I have talked to him about it. .. he tells me he loves me but that he's tired of hearing about it. That why can't this be simple... I trust him, I do not think he's cheating... in fact I hear the guys in the background half the time when I call. But I tried the not calling thing but I guess I'm too weak... because I end up calling him anyways. He's not normally this "distant" with me... this time it's a little too much. I just don't know what to do ... it makes me sad
thanks everyone for the advice! I will do my best to figure this out.