My husband made a financial decision without me.?

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Jane

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My husbands had decided to purchase a new cell phone for his little sister after he told me earlier he was not going to. They are very dependent on him. She is 15 but has two parents that work. I am sick of his family they always ask him to borrow money and never pay it back. And his little sister always has her hands out for clothes and money and he just gives it to her. But this time I am so upset because he told me he was not going to buy it now he has changed his mind. He just let his aunt borrow money that she never paid back and sent money to his brothers. I am fed up and ready to call it quites and let him and his leeching family be together. Any advice. I know he is the head of the household but I demand the courtesy of being filled on on these things. Her mom just bought her a cell phone a couple of months ago that cost $200.00 and now she needs another one. This will be the second one my husband buys for her. Any advice because I am ready to get a divorce behind his decisions.
 
I think you already have talked to him about this and he told you it would stop and it didn't. Finances are the number one reason for divorce in America.

It is your choice but it doesn't sound like it will stop. It also sounds like he is going to start hiding it because he thinks you are nagging now.
 
Your husband needs to learn that sometimes its good to say NO. People tend to latch on to someone that always gives gives gives. Give hubby a hard time and he should get the message.
He should not have done it without your knowledge.
 
Ha sounds like my younger brother, always has his hand out and usually always gets his way with no intent to pay back. I know he told you he wouldn't do this again, but thoughts of a divorce seem a bit harsh for this I think. Just tell him to stop being an idiot and this is the last time this stuff flys without you being filled in.
 
OMG. Let me first start by saying in a MARRIAGE there is no his or mine. The money is both of yours. He married you. That means he made a new family. You leave your parents and make a new family and that family comes before the old one.

And let me tell you, he is not living like a married man. He has a duty to the marriage and making any decision that effects you or the household without first talking it over with you and agreeing, is detrimental to the marriage.

You both need to find a Church that has marital counseling AND courses on finances for married people.
 
Is he using your money to do this? is that what the problem is? If it's eating into the money that you provide to the household, then I can understand why you would be annoyed. But if he is using his own money from his job to do this, then I think it us up to him, and you need to be less controlling.
 
I think you should talk to him about all this, don't rush into a divorce but bring that up in the conversation.
He shouldn't have done what he's done, not only did he do it behind your back but he lied about it initially!
 
Most people get a divorce because their spouse is stingy, overbearing and controlling. Your husband is giving and compassionate and you want out?
There's something else going on here that you're not saying.
 
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