My husband and I have three kids. A couple of years ago I had the desire and need...

[Tina]

...to have another baby? My husband had a vasectomy when I was pregnant with my youngest. We were both young when we started having kids and not financially secure. I wasn't for his decision but because of the circumstances and with family influence he had the procedure. Everyone was happy with the decision at first, our kid are 2 yrs apart so it helped knowing another one wouldn't be coming along. As the kids got older I felt myself longing to have another baby, and our children were even asking us to have another baby . I asked my husband if he would get a reversal and he would say yes then it was no. I was so upset, it was an emotional roller coaster for 2 yrs of him changing his mind and even meeting with doctors. He had all these reasons why he didn't want to have anymore. I couldn't understand why he didn't feel the same way I did. So after 3 yrs I excepted that it wasn't going to happen and I tried to move on I was only getting older (almost 32 to be exact). Then last week he calls me up from work to say I want to have another baby. I couldn't believe he was bringing this up again, especially when I had tried to move passed this emotional issue. He says he wants to have a reversal that he was scared before to have the operation and now he's ready to have more kids ( he's 30 yrs) Then he talked about it for a couple of days until I started talking about it and then he stopped. The thing that bothers me is that he's unsure of what he wants. I told him if he's not serious than to stop talking about it but he gives me mixed signals. We've gone through big issues in our marriage lately and I wonder if this is his way of trying to bring new focus.