My husband and I have been in a on and off situation. He does work and I am a stay...

[sheila a]

...at home woman since I am? on disability. Now being at home is not a fun thing to do all day. I want to get out and do things but he complains he is tired. Yes I 4give him but yet suffer some time we could have had fun together. As of our sex it sucks since he does not or never want to make love because he is to tired. He is not cheating since he is always at home after work. Yes I do know that he looks at porn sites on the computer and a recent lover of his from the time before I knew him contacted him and they have been talking pretty good over the computer or texting each other since she is a married woman also I guess he thinks that is alright. At first it did not bother me because I did not think it would not pull to this point of spending this much time with her. Yes I used to be on a site to talk to people and I am now off cuz I was so bored of just sitting around at home. My friends r married and have younger children so they hardley go out. My baby girl who is now 20 moved out and now it is just me. I met this person on the computer and yes we started talking as pen pals then we finally met and just had coffee but I called that quits. How can I spice up my marriage?