My husband and I have been arguing a lot since my daughter has been diagnosed

He may be scared of what the future holds. what i suggest you do is take him with to the next few appointments and have the doctor explain what is to come from all of this. A diagnosis is not a death sentence. he needs to have all of the facts laid in front of him. Just reassure him that there may be chances that it may be mild, if it is severe, just reassure him that you have the doctors who will be doing everything to help you.
 
My son was diagnosed almost a year ago with Autism (high functioning, to be specific). I can't say we have actually fought about it.. but I know what you're going through..
I agree with the other posters saying that you're husband is scared about the future. I don't think it will affect him nearly as much as it will affect you.
I also agree you guys need to grieve.. I also had to go through the grief.. and realized.. that some of my dreams for him hadn't been lost or shattered.. but needed to change.

Email me if you need someone to talk to (on my profile).
 
You're both going through grief.

Your lives have changed permanently, and it will take time to go through resolution and come to grips with it, and there's a lot of stress.

It will take time for one....one thing that might help is admitting you are both struggling with this - that alone can be very difficult. He may not want to talk about it, pretend it doesn't exist, have misgivings, regrets, anger, sorrow, denial - all are normal parts of grief.

I would reccomend counseling, and taking some time to realize what you're facing, put together some plans, pull together, put things in perspective, and realize this is going to take time.
 
I'm Sorry to hear about the diagnoses. My kids don't have Autism but my cousin's baby does. I had noticed her husband got frusturated really easily but when we talked later she said this was do to stress and disbelief.
They both argued about random things such as who gave her the bottle, who brought her to the doctor, etc. This is all due to stress and is Normal but sometimes if it gets out of hand consueling is a great option.
If it lasts more then 2 months try it and see if you like it, agian I am really sorry that you have to go through this, although im not 100% sure how it feels I can only imagine the worst. Good luck take care!
 
I'm Sorry to hear about the diagnoses. My kids don't have Autism but my cousin's baby does. I had noticed her husband got frusturated really easily but when we talked later she said this was do to stress and disbelief.
They both argued about random things such as who gave her the bottle, who brought her to the doctor, etc. This is all due to stress and is Normal but sometimes if it gets out of hand consueling is a great option.
If it lasts more then 2 months try it and see if you like it, agian I am really sorry that you have to go through this, although im not 100% sure how it feels I can only imagine the worst. Good luck take care!
 
anything like that will put stress on a relationship; arguing is completely normal. however, it's very important that you remember that she is still both of yours daughter and this is no one's fault. if you're arguing about this specifically, try to remember that arguing about it won't change it--it will only leave both of you feeling bad. if it's about other, non-related issues, just try to remember that you are both going through the same thing right now, and you need each others support now more than ever. you may also try counseling.
 
anything like that will put stress on a relationship; arguing is completely normal. however, it's very important that you remember that she is still both of yours daughter and this is no one's fault. if you're arguing about this specifically, try to remember that arguing about it won't change it--it will only leave both of you feeling bad. if it's about other, non-related issues, just try to remember that you are both going through the same thing right now, and you need each others support now more than ever. you may also try counseling.
 
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