My girlfriend whines about being abused as a child *yawn*?

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Dean

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You get a beating and then you get over it. Why b%tch and whining about it years later?

She, her sisters and mother were hit by her father all the time. Okay that's very sad, but why does she have to tell me about it? Its not my fault that her family didn't love her. She said I was insensitive and I'd be as messed up if I went through the same. Well I didn't! My dad loves me and the only time he ever hit me, he took me on vacation to New York to say sorry.

How do I get her to get over it? It was years ago!
 
Her talking about it and opening up to you about it is her therapy, she's simply seeking some sympathy from you. Maybe the next time hug her a tell her it's over and her dad will never hurt her again as long as you are around. You cannot get her to get over it. She will have to do that for herself. You can be compassionate toward her.
 
Wow, we have finally heard from the JERK of the evening. People who were abused as children sometimes have Post Tramatic Stress Syndrome and your a jerk for not being a better listener. Your father was not a good one either. He hit you and then tried to make it go away by buying your forgiveness, so you have your issues too big boy. If you care, at all for this woman, which I would say you don't, you will be kinder and suggest she gets counceling for her childhood abuse.
 
Okay, maybe she shouldn't tell you about it all the time but maybe she cares about you enough to open up to you and let you know these things. Maybe she finally feels like she can trust someone enough to talk to them about it. You said your dad took you on vacation to make it up to you, you seem spoiled. I was never hit, but not everyone has a parent like that.You probably would feel the same if you went through what she did. Honestly I think you should make it up to her because she probably feels like no one cares, and you're making it seem like it. She won't get over it, that will most probably be with her the rest of her life.

Maybe you should act like you care a little more.
 
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