Dalia Caldwell
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You may find it surprising that I am still with a girl who has, several times, hooked up with other guys. She is very different personality-wise, and I know that it puts a strain on our relationship that we do not have the same types of friends or interests. In her own social situations, she does not want to be with me. Several times, she's wanted to bring other guys to her sorority events because every time we've gone together we've ended up in a huge fight. Many times she's said that she fell head over heels for me, but that she wishes I were someone who better fit her life. I know that she is deeply in love with me, but we have not had sex but once in the last year. When I come on to her, she brushes me away. She tells me that she has no desire for sex, that it makes her miserable, but that she's always been attracted to me. Now she is about to leave for the summer, and I do not think, although I do love her, that I can survive a long-distance relationship. After a year that's shattered my confidence, and has truly made me feel miserable on a daily basis, I don't think that I can see this working out. We have a week left, and I am pondering a grand gesture, a lavish romantic evening for the two of us. She told me last week that she wanted to be physical with me, and to make me happy, and that she would try with all her heart, but every time i've initiated, she's told me basically that her heart isn't in it, she really isn't in the mood. Is this a lost cause? Do you really think anything I do at this point can fix our relationship?