Negative Nancy
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Back-story: I dated my current girlfriend last year but things didn't really go anywhere. We started dating again recently, and things took off.
I am fifteen years old (male), and she is fourteen. We have been sexually active ourselves, and recently we have begun talking about how many sexual partners we have each had.
She is the first person I have had sex with, so there wasn't really much to discuss on my end but she told me that there were six, or seven (yeah, she isn't even sure) other people that she has had sex with, and about ten more that she has fooled around with (first, second, and third base/ no sex).
This completely killed me inside. I feel like such a loser, and I'm beginning to think that she is either really easy, or is slutty. We have real feelings for eachother, but any time I'm with her I just constantly beat myself up inside thinking about this.
Another thing that keeps coming into mind is my performance, because she has had many other partners (or, more than I have) I don't think I measure up (so to speak) or preform as well as her other partners have. I don't want her to think, "Oh - Jake was better." or anything during or after intercourse.
Do you think 6-7 sexual partners is a lot for a 14 year old?
Should this change anything about our relationship?
I wouldn't have had sex with her if I knew she has had it with so many different people. I do love her, and I see sex as an intimate moment we share.
She has told me that most (or some) of her partners she regrets ever having sex with.
I've seen some of her (former) boyfriends treat her really badly, and it hurt me to see. I think she leads these people on and puts herself in these situations, but then doesn't leave the situation.
I don't want to dump her. I love her, and she is the only one I have felt this way about. I just need some advice.
:'(
I am fifteen years old (male), and she is fourteen. We have been sexually active ourselves, and recently we have begun talking about how many sexual partners we have each had.
She is the first person I have had sex with, so there wasn't really much to discuss on my end but she told me that there were six, or seven (yeah, she isn't even sure) other people that she has had sex with, and about ten more that she has fooled around with (first, second, and third base/ no sex).
This completely killed me inside. I feel like such a loser, and I'm beginning to think that she is either really easy, or is slutty. We have real feelings for eachother, but any time I'm with her I just constantly beat myself up inside thinking about this.
Another thing that keeps coming into mind is my performance, because she has had many other partners (or, more than I have) I don't think I measure up (so to speak) or preform as well as her other partners have. I don't want her to think, "Oh - Jake was better." or anything during or after intercourse.
Do you think 6-7 sexual partners is a lot for a 14 year old?
Should this change anything about our relationship?
I wouldn't have had sex with her if I knew she has had it with so many different people. I do love her, and I see sex as an intimate moment we share.
She has told me that most (or some) of her partners she regrets ever having sex with.
I've seen some of her (former) boyfriends treat her really badly, and it hurt me to see. I think she leads these people on and puts herself in these situations, but then doesn't leave the situation.
I don't want to dump her. I love her, and she is the only one I have felt this way about. I just need some advice.
:'(