I do my best to talk all disagreements over calmly and clearly. I really don't like to fight in an emotional way because of bad past experiences. So, at times we agree in the end or agree to disagree. Sometimes, she later finds out that I was right but I've just gone along with what she's said, she becomes upset, and wants to fight.
eg. We had to park very quickly as we were running late. There was ambiguity about whether we could use a parking spot because there were two opposing signs. She insisted on us parking, and I stated all the data supporting why we shouldn't. In the end, we used the parking spot and received a hefty fine.
Another time, we were hosting a lunch. A Spanish omelette was to be made. When it came time to flip it, I said we should go about it one way, or I could just flip it myself. She did it her way and everything ended up on the counter and floor. No Spanish omelette.
Since I'm cuttingly direct when I do fight, I try to keep the disagreement emotionally sterile and let the future reveal who is right or wrong in a very absolute way. In the end, we find out who is right but this doesn't seem to be working.
What to do?
eg. We had to park very quickly as we were running late. There was ambiguity about whether we could use a parking spot because there were two opposing signs. She insisted on us parking, and I stated all the data supporting why we shouldn't. In the end, we used the parking spot and received a hefty fine.
Another time, we were hosting a lunch. A Spanish omelette was to be made. When it came time to flip it, I said we should go about it one way, or I could just flip it myself. She did it her way and everything ended up on the counter and floor. No Spanish omelette.
Since I'm cuttingly direct when I do fight, I try to keep the disagreement emotionally sterile and let the future reveal who is right or wrong in a very absolute way. In the end, we find out who is right but this doesn't seem to be working.
What to do?