Hi,
I have a little problem that is really affecting my sanity. I have a 10 year old daughter. My gf and I have been together for a little over five years now, we met when my daughter was only 4 years old and have been together since. It has been a rough road for the past few years. A lot of things have gone wrong for me in the past few years but having my daughter and my girlfriend always gives me the strength to get up and try again.
However, my gf and I have been arguing more and more. For a while now, are often about my daughter. My gf gets upset over a lot of things my daughter does. When she sees her eating she gets upset and gets an attitude and asks why she is eating yet again. My kid eats a lot. She is thin and healthy but she eats a lot and my gf is always getting mad over that? I don't get it. I just don't. Sometimes she has even said that she is going to get fat. And she says it in front of her. I really don't like that and we argue about it. She complains about a lot of things my daughter does. She rarely says nice things about her and it hurts my feelings. The thing is my daughter loves her, a lot, but sometimes I feel that gf doesn't love her back. She does a lot of things for her though, she takes her to school, buys her clothes, stuff for her school, basically a lot of things a parent does for a child but she is not affectionate and is always complaining about something my daughter did wrong.
This morning, I heard my gf telling her something over and over again, and then all of a sudden my daughter was crying. So they started arguing. The whole thing was our cat peed on my daughters bed and my gf got up and started cleaning her bed and told her that she hadn't done it right or something like that. But IDK! My gf has a way of saying things sometimes, that is not very nice. She even does to me often. Annnnnd to top it off, my daughter cries easily, over everything. She is very sentimental and easily gets her feelings hurt. I have tried talking to both of them but I am at the point where I just don't know what to do! I am tired of arguing with my gf and my daughter. Tired of feeling like this.
She always criticizes my parenting and makes me feel as if I don't know what I am doing. This really hurts me, but I don't think she cares as she has done it plenty of times.
I just want things to be o.k. but don't know what to do or what I am doing wrong? Today after we argued, she told me that my daughter and I gang up on her and attack her?? I mean, how does a 10 year old attack a 32 year old? I don't understand. I don't know how to fix this?
My gf is 32 years old, has no children. I am 28 and only have my daughter. Please help me. I love my daughter and my gf with all my heart. I want us to be o.k. What can I do??
I have a little problem that is really affecting my sanity. I have a 10 year old daughter. My gf and I have been together for a little over five years now, we met when my daughter was only 4 years old and have been together since. It has been a rough road for the past few years. A lot of things have gone wrong for me in the past few years but having my daughter and my girlfriend always gives me the strength to get up and try again.
However, my gf and I have been arguing more and more. For a while now, are often about my daughter. My gf gets upset over a lot of things my daughter does. When she sees her eating she gets upset and gets an attitude and asks why she is eating yet again. My kid eats a lot. She is thin and healthy but she eats a lot and my gf is always getting mad over that? I don't get it. I just don't. Sometimes she has even said that she is going to get fat. And she says it in front of her. I really don't like that and we argue about it. She complains about a lot of things my daughter does. She rarely says nice things about her and it hurts my feelings. The thing is my daughter loves her, a lot, but sometimes I feel that gf doesn't love her back. She does a lot of things for her though, she takes her to school, buys her clothes, stuff for her school, basically a lot of things a parent does for a child but she is not affectionate and is always complaining about something my daughter did wrong.
This morning, I heard my gf telling her something over and over again, and then all of a sudden my daughter was crying. So they started arguing. The whole thing was our cat peed on my daughters bed and my gf got up and started cleaning her bed and told her that she hadn't done it right or something like that. But IDK! My gf has a way of saying things sometimes, that is not very nice. She even does to me often. Annnnnd to top it off, my daughter cries easily, over everything. She is very sentimental and easily gets her feelings hurt. I have tried talking to both of them but I am at the point where I just don't know what to do! I am tired of arguing with my gf and my daughter. Tired of feeling like this.
She always criticizes my parenting and makes me feel as if I don't know what I am doing. This really hurts me, but I don't think she cares as she has done it plenty of times.
I just want things to be o.k. but don't know what to do or what I am doing wrong? Today after we argued, she told me that my daughter and I gang up on her and attack her?? I mean, how does a 10 year old attack a 32 year old? I don't understand. I don't know how to fix this?
My gf is 32 years old, has no children. I am 28 and only have my daughter. Please help me. I love my daughter and my gf with all my heart. I want us to be o.k. What can I do??