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AtheistCleric
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I've been together with this girl for almost 7 months now. After 3 months we suddenly started talking about sex. She was the one to break the "sex-ice", and later the same night we talked alot about it via MSN. It seemed like she wanted to, and later she admitted that it was the case. One day, almost 2 months later, while making out in my bed, i finally dared to ask. We'd been talking about it quite often during these 2 months. I asked her, how she felt about it, how rdy she was. She didnt understand my question and i tried to explain, i didnt want to know if you wanted to have sex that very moment, but thats how she took it. So finally she asked "Are you asking me if i want sex?" and i said "well alright, yes". She said no, and gave no reason for it. I didnt dare to ask why since i was nervous and abit shocked by her reaction.
About a week or 2 passed, and we never mentioned sex. One night i asked her why she had taken distance from the subject sex, and i got the answer: "It feels like sex is all you want" WHAT? That is not true! Sure, ofc i want to have sex, but she thought (and still thinks) that ALL i want. I havent tried to get closer to having sex more then she has. She started it, she asked if i had condoms, she said that it wouldnt take a long time til we'd do it since she couldnt resist it, but suddenly she doesnt want to have anything to do with it. What went wrong? Both male and female perspectives please... I want to have sex, i rly long for it, but not because of the pleasure.... bc she also said: "It felt like i knew you, but now i realize i dont"... which means.. until we have sex, i cant be sure she rly loves me, sounds stupid, but thats how it feels.... i love her more then i've ever loved anyone else, ever... one thing why i feel this way about that im afraid that she doesnt love me, is bc: She told me that she was a virgin, even tho she had been toghether with another guy for 8 months, which ended a few months b4 we met.. the reason they didnt have sex: "he wasnt right"... Aint i the right guy either??? Scares my heart out.
About a week or 2 passed, and we never mentioned sex. One night i asked her why she had taken distance from the subject sex, and i got the answer: "It feels like sex is all you want" WHAT? That is not true! Sure, ofc i want to have sex, but she thought (and still thinks) that ALL i want. I havent tried to get closer to having sex more then she has. She started it, she asked if i had condoms, she said that it wouldnt take a long time til we'd do it since she couldnt resist it, but suddenly she doesnt want to have anything to do with it. What went wrong? Both male and female perspectives please... I want to have sex, i rly long for it, but not because of the pleasure.... bc she also said: "It felt like i knew you, but now i realize i dont"... which means.. until we have sex, i cant be sure she rly loves me, sounds stupid, but thats how it feels.... i love her more then i've ever loved anyone else, ever... one thing why i feel this way about that im afraid that she doesnt love me, is bc: She told me that she was a virgin, even tho she had been toghether with another guy for 8 months, which ended a few months b4 we met.. the reason they didnt have sex: "he wasnt right"... Aint i the right guy either??? Scares my heart out.