Insightfully confused
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year. do I give up? i have had this friend since I was 12. he was my boyfriend for about 4 months when we were 13. we never even kissed. when it came time for college he was accepted into an ivy league school and every year I would fly out to see him. It's not a physical attraction kind of thing, he was my best friend. now that college is over and he works on wall street. he hardly gets any sleep and works over 80 hours a week. i understand he's busy but to ignore me for a year? i think it's mean. i had a horrible childhood and he was the one there for me. every year in college when i would fly to go see him he always asked "when does your flight come in, how long are you staying and I can't wait to see you!" while i was there he would walk with his arm around me, we slept in the same bed and he was always sad to see me go. we would talk on the phone at least once a week and I would send him "care packages" with pictures and cookies and things like that. he would call me every time he came home for the holidays as soon as he landed at the airport. i was the first person he wanted to see. he would call me before he would call his own mother. and then he graduated and he's gotten more distant. I understand that people grow up and move on but I've written and asked him if he doesn't want me in his life anymore to just tell me so I can get some closure, grieve for the loss of my friend and move on. he doesn't respond to that either. we didn't get in a fight or have any kind of falling out, he just vanished. I don't understand what happened. It became so painful I had to take the pictures of us down off of my apartment walls because they made me cry. do i give up or keep trying until I get some kind of answer from him?