Right so my friend at school has invited me to a camping party in two weekends time. But there are a couple of catches. When I was ten (I'm fourteen now) I had a very emotional and frightening experience. My brother, his girlfriend and her daughter and me were coming out of a cinema and all of a sudden this huge gang of thugs come up to us and my brother's skin is quite dark so they started calling him names and me names and his girlfriend and her daughter names. They were being really intimidating and for a ten year old to go through that it was really quite horrifying. So since then I've always been a bit uncomfortable around people that look remotely like these thugs, I know I shouldn't judge a book by its cover but I do get terribly nervous. I'm better than I was two or three years ago but the thing is that this girl that has invited me I know she hangs around with a few people like that but perhaps not as horrible as the people that approach me at the cinema. And also there will be a hell of a lot of alcahol at this party plus it's in these fields near where I live. So obviously I'm not allowed to drink because I'm underage but I might have a WKD just so I don't come across as a killjoy. My parents are quite protective over me, not so much so that they don't allow me out at all but I don't think they're too sure about me hanging around with this girl, who has a bit of a reputation as a slag, which she is even though she's fourteen like me, she has got up to a lot of stuff. And I'm nervous about socializing too, how will I talk with all these strangers. I'm only going if two of my friends go, we're all a bit nervous because this will be our first time doing something like this. We've vowed not to drink excessivley, not to smoke or take any drugs if they're offered. We all really want to go but at the same time we don't. I blow off this girl before when she invited me to a concert because I was too nervous to go and I don't want to blow her off again in case she thinks I'm too stupid to just go along to a gathering. If I go to this one I could see what it's like and if I don't like it then I don't need to go to future ones. What should I do?
Please help
Please help
. I know that that would make you look like a wimp, but if the party turned out to be a flop and everyone get caught with drugs and stuff, you would not be penalized. And who knows, maybe you could be someone elses role model for sticking up for what you/your parents believe is right!