My Father-in-law is coming to stay with us tomorrow, how do I survive this?

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I feel he purposely tries to antagonize me into an argument, for example last time he was here for dinner and we finished eating and he lifted his plate and my wife's plate when we'd finished eating and didn't lift mine, poured a drink for himself and her and not for me, just little irritating things like that. He'll do anything for her just to make me look like I'm a lousy husband. He'll be here for 5 days, I'm not going to be able to relax in my own house, invite friends over, be intimate with my wife, etc... I am not looking forward to this!
 
YOU must immdiate get wife to cancel his arrival, and get into couples counseling immdiately. I am sorry, but your marriage is in deep trouble if you can't tell her his staying is out of the question due to his rudeness.

Deal constructively with this. Otherwise, there IS another option: a business trip suddenly came up. How about that surgery you were putting off. Hope abduct a sick uncle in another state requires you to leave. How about your boss wants you to stay at the office a few days to deal with a heavy workload.
 
(1) spend a lot of time with your friends.

(2) Hide. if you have a home office, be really, really busy the next five days

(3) don't complain to your wife. you'll just get more upset

(4) rent a hotel room (if you can afford it). sneak your wife there in the guise of being spontaneously romantic. only needs to be for an hour or so. include dinner.
 
He is trying to wind you up. If he wants to act like a brat let him, just ignore his childish behaviour because the more attention you give it the more he wil do it. Just carry on as normal and don't pander to his behaviour. If he does those things just carry on as if you haven't noticed a thing. If he thinks he's getting to you he will win.
 
Just take it all with a pinch of salt ;-)

Once you start making an issue of anything, he has won, do not give him the satisfaction of this, just ignore his behaviour and go out of your way to make him welcome and comfy in your home, smile always, give your wife a kiss in front of him, or where he can catch you out....

He will be so furious, he may try harder to cause an argument, let him, and smile back, and be polite.

Trust me he will hate you even more at the end of the 5 days, because you will have won. He might not come back again EVER!!!!

Good luck, sounds like you are going to need lots of it.
 
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