My boyfriend of six months, and I broke up about a week ago. It just wasn't working for either of us at the time. I wanted more, and all he did was pull away and only fit me into his life when it was convenient for him. His life was kind of going down hill since his most recent semester of school ended. He was living with a "friend" of his, couldn't find a job, drivers license had just expired and he can't afford to renew it, and their most recent plan was to move into my ex's RV, because they couldn't afford the apartment they were living in (the roommate is an alcoholic, and is trying to save up to pay his lawyer).
He's leaving for his 2 weeks in a couple weeks, and then moving home for a couple months to finish his degree. Last time we had been together (as a couple) he said there was a possibility that he might have to go to Afghanistan after he's done with school. When we broke up, he said that the day before he had volunteered to go for 2 years after school.
His entire family is involved in the military one way or another. So they think it's great that he's willing to put himself out there, and he looks at it as a way to be able to pay some of his debt off.
We may not be together anymore, but I still care about him a lot and don't want him to get hurt. Both of my sisters think I should just forget about him all together, because he never involved me in his life anyways. One of my friends, and my father, both think I should let him know I'm here for him if he ever needs someone to talk to while he's over seas. I want to be there for him, but that was part of our problem when we were together, he wouldn't let me be there.
I don't think I can mentally, or emotionally do that to myself right now, but if I gave myself a couple months, I might be able to talk to him again. But I'm not even sure he would want that. I think he's just running away from the way his life was turning out here, and I just happened to be a part of that.
It was the first relationship either of us had anyways, and he was the first guy I opened myself up to, an was intimate with.
We haven't talked since we broke up, and I'm not sure he will ever contact me again, but I know I can't just yet.
Would it be a good idea to try and be distant friends when he goes away?
Or would it only bring up the feelings we had?
He's leaving for his 2 weeks in a couple weeks, and then moving home for a couple months to finish his degree. Last time we had been together (as a couple) he said there was a possibility that he might have to go to Afghanistan after he's done with school. When we broke up, he said that the day before he had volunteered to go for 2 years after school.
His entire family is involved in the military one way or another. So they think it's great that he's willing to put himself out there, and he looks at it as a way to be able to pay some of his debt off.
We may not be together anymore, but I still care about him a lot and don't want him to get hurt. Both of my sisters think I should just forget about him all together, because he never involved me in his life anyways. One of my friends, and my father, both think I should let him know I'm here for him if he ever needs someone to talk to while he's over seas. I want to be there for him, but that was part of our problem when we were together, he wouldn't let me be there.
I don't think I can mentally, or emotionally do that to myself right now, but if I gave myself a couple months, I might be able to talk to him again. But I'm not even sure he would want that. I think he's just running away from the way his life was turning out here, and I just happened to be a part of that.
It was the first relationship either of us had anyways, and he was the first guy I opened myself up to, an was intimate with.
We haven't talked since we broke up, and I'm not sure he will ever contact me again, but I know I can't just yet.
Would it be a good idea to try and be distant friends when he goes away?
Or would it only bring up the feelings we had?