Our 17 year old daughter does a little bit of modeling-acting and lost a lot of weight. She is 5'7 and weighs 105 pounds. I have taken her to the doctor and he said that she is starting to develop an eating disorder and to take her to a therapist twice a week and control her food intake. She is dating an older boy (23) who is on a well known football team around here and has a lot of money so she feels as if she needs to be "pretty" for him all the time. My husband is overly aggressive about this situation and stands over her like she's 4 while she eats and if she doesn't want to finish her food he yells, "you're not getting up from that chair until I see a clean plate" she starts to hysterically cry, over exaggerate by gagging, protest and I just feel horrible for her. He always tells her that if she throws the food up he would microwave the leftovers and make her eat all over again until she stops. This happens ALL the time...breakfast, lunch and dinner became a chore and not something to look forward too. The arguements between them have gotten so bad that she threatened to leave home and go live with her boyfriend who "understands" her better. However, I told her boyfriend what is happening with her recently and he takes our side and makes her eat more when they're alone.,..our daughter is angry about this with us and says it's our fault he's acting like this now. My husband also stands over here when she weighs herself to keep track. I am tired and really want to throw in the towel. Last time her boyfriend came for dinner and she wouldn't finish her food...my husband wouldn't let them go to the movies that they planned on. He kept on counting the minutes and saying..."well i guess we're not going to watch that movie tonight, are we"? totally embarrassing her in front of her boyfriend who was horrified at the whole scene watching his girlfriend be treated like a little girl. I love jessica, and I know she needs to gain weight, but standing over her like that is not being supportive and is just pushing her further away. I understand my husband wants the best for her and is concerned...but isn't this too much? How can I improve this situation? anyone been through this with their kid? please help
once she lied to us about finishing her food and we saw it all in the trash covered by lots of paper towels...my husband got so mad that he came over to her, spanked her, picked her up and carried her into the kitchen, sat her in the chair and made her eat leftovers once again and he was crying while doing all this....this is really taking a toll on the family...
this is jessica when she was 10 pounds heavier than she is now (on the left with the brown hair)...and yes, that's me in the middle
http://yfrog.com/ju73783427j
once she lied to us about finishing her food and we saw it all in the trash covered by lots of paper towels...my husband got so mad that he came over to her, spanked her, picked her up and carried her into the kitchen, sat her in the chair and made her eat leftovers once again and he was crying while doing all this....this is really taking a toll on the family...
this is jessica when she was 10 pounds heavier than she is now (on the left with the brown hair)...and yes, that's me in the middle
http://yfrog.com/ju73783427j