My Dad is an addict, need some advice please

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Hello and thanks for taking the time to read,
My dad was an extreme alchohalic over 10 years ago. His body finally shut down and he went into a coma for 4 months. He was given a 7% chance of coming out of it and it was likely he would have brain damage if he did. Miraculously, he came out of it perfectly fine and was sober for over 10years. almost a year ago, he hurt himself and had broke his femur and had to have his hop replaced and back surgery. He never told the Drs about his alchohol problem (still wont admit he ever had a problem, just says he "made a mistake"), so they gave him tons of pain meRAB. He tells me he doesnt take them anymore, but I know he does. And more recently, I have smelled alchohol on his breath. He is obviously using again. I am now an adult, so things are different (I was only 19 when he went into the coma before). I am not sure how I should address this wiht him. I feel like I have to catch him in the act, or find the bottles. I have asked him if hes drinking, but he denies it. He lives by himself, over an hour away from me, and I have 2 little kiRAB, so its not so easy for me to just drive over. I have to plan this out before I go. What I need advice on, is how do I do this? What do I suggest he do, rehab, AA, ? I know he is going to be extremely angry with me, but I cant just watch him do this again. My boys love their Grandpa and he loves them, but I cant have them with him if hes not sober. If anyone has any advice or help for me, I would really appreciate it.
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I am sorry you are going through this. I am an addict and I know how easy it is to get started again. I had a L5-S1 fusion in 2005 and got hooked on pills. I stopped for a couple of years....but life got tough for me to deal w/on my own and I started using again and mixing w/alcohol and drugs. I never thought I would have ever been where I am today...I didn't intend on this. I can tell you that my family and frienRAB have been so supportive when I came clean. I think if one of them knew and came to me I may have done something about it sooner. I don't know though. It may make you feel better to come clean w/him and tell him you know and are concerned about him.

Today I go to rehab and I am scared...but I know it is a matter of life or death for me. I am a 46 year old woman and I never thought I would be in this place ever. But I am an addict and need help.

I will send you and your family prayers. Good luck and a "HUG" for you!

Judy
 
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