My brother is getting married sort of out of the blue because our grandmother is taking a turn for the worst. He picked a date April 25, when he always talked about August 21'st because it was our deceased brother's birthday. and my daughter is turning one on May 26th. My fiance and I were going to baptize her before she turned one but couldn't find a good date to do it on before he left. We wanted it to be in the spring because that's when she was born. And since my brother was getting married in April, we thought to do it around the same time so that our family who would be in town wouldn't have to make two trips in the same time span, especially our grandmother. Makes sense right? Apparently not. I asked my brother if that would be okay, since he's going to be her god father. He said no, and that he would be mad at me for a very long time if i took his day away from him. I had askd my family beforehand if that would be a good idea, and they even told me to do it on the thursday before so that our family could plan a four day weekend (the 25th is on a sunday) so it would fall on the 21'st. I tell him this and he's not okay with it. I'm extremely upset because she's supposed to be his god daughter and he doesn't want to share a week with celebrating something special for her when it's convenient for everyone else.
But then I get to thinking, why not April 16th. since he has a problem with it being so close to his wedding. It also happened to be the day my brother passed away so i asked my parents first if they would mind that? my mom loved the idea and my dad didn't have a problem and urged me to do it on that day. the day just seems right.
I know my brother is pissed off about me suggesting the idea in the first place, but am I wrong in my thinking that it's more convenient for everyone else? I'm not trying to take his day away. It's not even the same day or in the same week. And it's not like I'm going to get married the same month he is, it's about my daughter. And even now I've gotten messages from his fiance about how i was the first one to have a baby like it was some sort of game as to who had one first. Am i wrong in asking him? Am i wrong from not backing down from a date that seems so right in my mind? I am not going to plan my life or my daughter's life around when he decides to do something out of the blue. But what should I do?
But then I get to thinking, why not April 16th. since he has a problem with it being so close to his wedding. It also happened to be the day my brother passed away so i asked my parents first if they would mind that? my mom loved the idea and my dad didn't have a problem and urged me to do it on that day. the day just seems right.
I know my brother is pissed off about me suggesting the idea in the first place, but am I wrong in my thinking that it's more convenient for everyone else? I'm not trying to take his day away. It's not even the same day or in the same week. And it's not like I'm going to get married the same month he is, it's about my daughter. And even now I've gotten messages from his fiance about how i was the first one to have a baby like it was some sort of game as to who had one first. Am i wrong in asking him? Am i wrong from not backing down from a date that seems so right in my mind? I am not going to plan my life or my daughter's life around when he decides to do something out of the blue. But what should I do?