Ok, so I can't actually put all the blame on my brother-in-law because my husband and I have had problems for a while. He has a control issue, is very jealous and spends all his time complaining at me and the kids. But the worst times are when he and his brother get together. His brother is constantly drinking and any time they are together he's pushing beers at him. He doesn't drink much at home at all, only when they get together and a time between them without beer is unheard of.
About a year ago he started getting really mouthy to me whenever they would drink and both come home together, almost like he was showing off by treating me like shit and getting mad at me over nothing right in front of him. I am not someone who puts up with this and stick up for myself, which starts a fight. I had to literally keep him away from his brother for a while and not allow them to get together too often. Things died down a bit.
Now, suddenly his brother is trying to plan things with only him, my husband and my kids and not include me. He even tried to plan a day trip out of town and I was not invited. Then when they got together with the kids over the weekend, he was actually trash talking me right in front of them, saying things that were totally untrue. While I normally wouldn't even care what he thinks, this time he was saying things right in front of my kids. And NO, my husband did not seem to stick up for me. But my kids were quick to tell me all about it. When I asked my husband about it, he first denied it but then contradicted himself which made him start a fight. It seems like my brother in law does nothing but cause trouble for us...or is it my husband? Should I just keep them away from each other and hope things get better? I don't think I can get over the fact that he did not stick up for me. We have been married over 10 years. I would also like to know how anyone else would approach this situation. I really want to get my hands on him and tell him off as I am not afraid to say something right to his face, unlike him. Should I let him get away with trash talking me and say nothing to keep the peace? I feel I should stick up for myself and I think I should have the right to never allow him in my house again. I would really appreciate any opinions you may have for me and thank you.
About a year ago he started getting really mouthy to me whenever they would drink and both come home together, almost like he was showing off by treating me like shit and getting mad at me over nothing right in front of him. I am not someone who puts up with this and stick up for myself, which starts a fight. I had to literally keep him away from his brother for a while and not allow them to get together too often. Things died down a bit.
Now, suddenly his brother is trying to plan things with only him, my husband and my kids and not include me. He even tried to plan a day trip out of town and I was not invited. Then when they got together with the kids over the weekend, he was actually trash talking me right in front of them, saying things that were totally untrue. While I normally wouldn't even care what he thinks, this time he was saying things right in front of my kids. And NO, my husband did not seem to stick up for me. But my kids were quick to tell me all about it. When I asked my husband about it, he first denied it but then contradicted himself which made him start a fight. It seems like my brother in law does nothing but cause trouble for us...or is it my husband? Should I just keep them away from each other and hope things get better? I don't think I can get over the fact that he did not stick up for me. We have been married over 10 years. I would also like to know how anyone else would approach this situation. I really want to get my hands on him and tell him off as I am not afraid to say something right to his face, unlike him. Should I let him get away with trash talking me and say nothing to keep the peace? I feel I should stick up for myself and I think I should have the right to never allow him in my house again. I would really appreciate any opinions you may have for me and thank you.